Hate being single when the weather's nice

[fedup078]

Not sure if this is just one of my weird quirks but I hate hate hate being single when it's glorious outside
Actually even when I'm not single and at a loose end I get in a bit on a panic, sitting in all day just seems such a waste

Split with dh 3 months ago and I think this weekend is the first time it's hit me that I'm single yet again. I don't want him back and I don't think i even want a relationship, just having available friends would stop me feeling like this
All my friends have families and I don't want to be a 3rd wheel
I do intend to look for new hobbies etc but events are still a bit slow opening back up again
Is it just me who feels like this? I know Xmas etc can be hard when single too but the nice weather really brings it home for me

@fedup078 and @IntermittentParps a single friendship app already exists- when you download it, Bumble has a friend mode option for people looking to connect and make friends

Omg I’m a bit like this! I also don’t like finishing with someone in the summer, and I once waited until October to end things with a man that just wasn’t for me, I knew in May that I was going off of him and it was sealed in my mind by mid July but as it was the summer then I held on until end of Sept/start of October, this was due to us still getting relatively good weather that year up until the start of Autumn! It’s good to hear I’m not alone

I was just about to mention what Sarah has. When I deleted my account on bumble it gave me the option to move to a friendship account.

SarahDarah, yeah, I know, but the OP said 'Shame we can't magically know where others in the same boat are in our areas' and that made me imagine an app where you could specifically look up people planning or discussing activities in your area. Does Bumble offer that?
Even if it does, I bet there's room in the market for another one, especially if you could think of an angle to make it stand out.

Honestly, if I had the business nous and any spare time, I'd be on to doing that myself!

look up people planning or discussing activities in your area.

I've always thought of Meetup.com as being exactly this.

@fedup078
I feel exactly the same - feel like I am still in lockdown
All of my friends are married - I lost a few during lockdown - realised they were not true friends so I am literally on my own. No one to go out for a summer drink with. It hits hard on a sunny day - I see my ex with his new partner in his open top sports car and it hurts so much - like you I don't want him back or another relationship but just feel so lonely

@AccidentallyRunToWindsor
I have been going to bed so early - the evenings are so long. I went for a walk the other evening but it was so lonely walking past pubs full of people laughing, cars passing me looking at me thinking I am a loner - I don't want to walk alone and also don't feel safe as it is remote countryside where I live

I hate having zoom meetings at work - they asked what everyone was doing over bank holiday and I had to make something up - how sad is that ?!

@tinysundancer

I hate having zoom meetings at work - they asked what everyone was doing over bank holiday and I had to make something up - how sad is that ?!

Oh that sucks :( I realised that I last had a face to face conversation with someone on Sunday. Only people I have spoken to are the postlady and someone working in a shop. How tragic is that.

I know it’s often trotted out but have you thought of volunteering?At the moment i am at a vaccination hub and we were open all weekend. It’s good to chat with lots of different people and the days are not so long . I try to get out somewhere every day even for a wander round a different town. I also make arrangements to meet my coupled up friends midweek when they have had enough of 3 days being with their family full time. !

@AccidentallyRunToWindsor
Bless you - I am the same I can go for days not seeing or speaking to anyone other than a shop worker.
Now I am working from home it is even more lonely
I am going to look for a Saturday job to keep me busy and hopefully meet other people that way

FROLO seems the perfect app for my predicament but there doesn't seem to be much activity . There's barely anyone on from my area which is a shame
I'd never heard of it so I'm guessing it's poorly advertised

I totally feel this, OP. I just went away on my own for a few days and it was so depressing. Absolutely everyone else around me was coupled up. It's not that I can't be alone - in fact, I do almost everything alone. It's just tiring to have to do it all the time. All I want is someone to have a glass of wine with overlooking the beach, or have a nice dinner out with, or a long hike. It's tiring having to do all these things alone. And yes, I can do stuff with friends, but most of them are busy doing all this with their partners. I miss just having that 'default' person to hang out with.

Here's what I have been doing to make friends in a new area - and covid really threw a spanner in the works there, but it's all available again now.

I walk a lot, and so I have a routine of walking and popping into cafes and bars at particular times on particular days of the week. You get to know the 'regulars' who are usually looking for company too - single people, or groups, who are happy to chat.

Also, apps like Bumble have 'friend' categories too - although I'm out in the sticks, so no-one for me to 'match' to there, but might work if you are less rural.

Meetup will get better as we open up too - it was very active before lockdown, there were even groups by me in those days.

I was single for ages before I met my DP and I can totally relate.

The thing is when you're single, you have to make plans to have company and that BH lazy day vibe feels completely isolating. I developed a hatred for parks! Families everywhere, parents my age - why was I the odd one out?

You're not long single and you haven't had a chance to adjust. Give yourself a break. It's a big lifestyle shift and once you're in a pattern of organising things for your free time you will probably love it.

I found 'meet-up' very good for meeting up with new people, mainly women, and it is not a dating site.

@Rozziie - I had a similar experience years ago. I could hear a couple in the hotel room next to me laughing and talking. Made me feel really alone.