I love my partner but I don't think we are compatible

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I love my partner of 2 year so much. He makes me laugh, I enjoy being around him, he is there for me and very supportive. We have things in common but when it comes to compatablity I'm worried that something isn't right. He never wants do do anything. He enjoys sitting at home and nothing else. I am very outgoing and would like to take trips and go for walks. But we never do because he doesn't want to. He doesn't work, and I work through the week and spend every weekend sitting in the house doing nothing even though I'd like to be out having fun and making memories. But we do the same thing every weekend. I asked him to help me pain my room and he complained about it so much and every time I ask to do something with him he tells me how I guilt tripped him into helping me paint my room so I can't complain that he never does anything I'd like to do.
This breaks my heart...but I would love to have the courage to break up with him and find someone I can have adventures with and enjoy my youth with making memories. I find it worrying that at 20 years of age I'm doing nothing but working and sitting in the house. I love him so much and I don't want to leave him. Will I regret my choice? I really wish I had someone to talk to about this, I feel so alone...

Good grief, you're 20! Get out there and play the field. I wouldn't waste an extra day on the wrong man when I was that age.

You won't believe the difference when you meet someone you're actually compatible with.

You've been together two years, one of which I guess was through covid. So he basically got the Indoor relationship he wanted for a year. What now?
I'd make a plan for the future on a big calendar of all the things you want to do, and then wait and see his response. If he shows no interest I'd leave. It will hurt more in ten years time when you resent him for wasting your twenties.

If you really love him and he loves you, that's something incredibly special. True love is so hard to find, don't throw it away by breaking up without at least trying to make the relationship work. Lots of happy couples aren't tied at the hip and do things separately from each other. No reason why you can't have some fun at the weekends going out on your own. Once your partner sees you doing this, it might spur him into wanting to accompany you!

I’d move on.. I did this after a 5 year relationship and without sounding harsh it was the best decision I could’ve made. He was the loveliest most supportive guy in the whole world, my best friend in many ways... but the spark/excitement just wasn’t there. I’ve since dated and, whilst still single, realised there’s so much more out there and there ARE guys out there that give me that butterfly feeling.
I’m still so fond of my ex and think he’s a fantastic guy. You don’t want to drag things out so much that you end up resenting each other, which may well happen if you stay.

Good luck OP

My sisters DH did work and very hard so did at least contribute financially but he just wanted to stay at home and do nothing. He was also her first relationship at age 18. He died four years ago and my sister aged 62 found herself. She had a very boring life for decades.

Leave this man and don’t waste your life like my sister, she also relied on him and called him her best friend and he did listen to her. But my sister was raped when she was 16 and was incredibly emotionally vulnerable. He knew this because he was our older brothers best friend. She stayed with him because he felt safe and she was scared of men overall.

Why do you love him?