Honest opinions

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Me & my FH have been together for 10 years now and we have been trying to get married past 2 years but due to Covid all our plans got changed.

I have always dreamed of my wedding but he has been nothing but negative past 2 years about it and makes comments about how its a waste of money and he doesn't like it etc

We put a deposit on the wedding and his response was ' you pay for it, I am not paying for that shit, its your wedding' and of course that hurt my feelings.

He bangs on about money for a house (agreed) however, the money he did have, he went and ga ve to his mom for her house deposit and that was without prior consultation to me. He gets very defensive if I want to talk about it or have anything to say.

He never follows anything traditional but all the sudden wants my family to pay because tradition is that family of bride pay but I have explained over and over that my family don't have those funds and this is OUR wedding so we should pay for it. Not to mention he has more guests than me. He upset me so much that I said I will pay for my half and you pay for yours. He comes later and apologies for upsetting me and says he will fund it all and then the next day, says he never said that and continues to make any experience of a wedding horrible.

I brought my wedding dress 2 years ago and now every thought of a wedding is just ruined. I made it clear to him that if he doesn't want to get married then I can't be with him because I don't want to continue a 10 year long relationship with no formal ground to it.

I feel stupid like I gave him all good years and literally acted like a wife for fucking 10 years to only now be given this attitude.

He is a fairly shy guy and hates attention which is why we are having a very intimate wedding with literally only family.

I feel like he is punishing me all the time. He makes comments about the house being messy sometimes and that I am not doing my job or if there is food not made that on certain days that I haven't cooked in a while.

I do love him and he has good moments but honestly sometimes I am screaming inside.

Anyone else experience anything similar or has any advise for me ?

Op after your last post you need to get the hell out.

Its much easer said that done to up and leave because he had made threats in past that he would take my child & leave while I am a sleep & I will never find then again. As a mother, can you even imagine the thoughts on that.

Yes...my ex told me he would never let me leave with our daughter and that he'd rather burn the house down than see me get a penny in settlement.

5 years later I'm sitting in my home, bought with my 55% of the equity in our marital home, with my daughter and the two cats I wasn't allowed to have, and a shiny new friend with benefits at the end of the phone 😁.

If you want to leave, get some good legal advice, get your ducks in row and bloody do it. You only have one life, don't waste it on this idiot.

I would have left 5 years earlier but felt exactly the same you...how I wish I'd had that extra 5 years.

Had we been alone he was would of killed me, he said some dark wave went over him and he would of probably left me dead there

WHY would you want a dream wedding to this nightmare of a man??? I wouldn't want to be with him married or not. Your relationship is toxic and he sounds dangerous.

No way would I want to marry this man, no bloody chance!

He sounds like a bit of a stinker. I know it is very hard OP but I would be saving up to get out of there. Stinkers do not change, they just get worse and worse.