He never wants sex

[Pannene]

I've name changed for this (hopefully).

Before I found out I was pregnant me and partner used to have 'proper sex' often but most of the time he'd only want a handhold (used to say he was tired etc). I then found out I was pregnant and we had sex a couple of times but he still preferred a handjob. I gave birth 5 months and we still haven't had sex. Sometimes I try to initiate it but he ignores me or I say I want to have sex instead but he says that he doesn't want to and asks for a handjob. In other ways, he's a good partner and is very affectionate etc. I just have no idea why he's not interested!

Any advice will be appreciated.

@youvegottenminuteslynn
I went on to meet someone who liked sex at lot more (and she liked a lot of sex 😃), single again now and will probably stay that way TBH.

As an aside, being a male you kinda get used to all the my missus/ GF never wants sex comments, bit of a standing joke in male circles.

But since l came across this forum last year, I’m absolutely staggered at the number of threads I’ve read from females saying that their husbands / Partners don’t want to have sex with them, something that simply would have never had thought about.
My sex drive used to ebb and flow with the ups and downs of life, but don’t ever remember refusing when it was on offer !

If he wants a handjob he can sort himself out.
Stop doing it!

I have no other constructive advice. Is the rest of your life together worth a sexless life?