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They swapped numbers

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Sillawithans · 17/05/2021 21:41

So, on Friday my boyfriend's motorbike broke down. A woman stopped, offered him a lift, they chatted for the roughly 5 minute journey. He had no cash on him to offer as a thank you, so asked for her number to get in touch later.

Hi is an absolute gentleman and very attractive to boot, we have a great relationship, no codes on phones, no secrecy blah blah.

What do you make of that?

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Bluedeblue · 19/05/2021 09:02

he wanted give her a little something

Yes, I bet he did.

Look, I'm a bit cynical (I'm older and I've been cheated on lots), but there's definitely something that doesn't add up here.

  1. No woman with half a brain would pick up a strange man off the side of the road.
  1. If she did, and he said thank you at the time, there is no need to ask for her number, other than to arrange to meet again, so that he can give her something for her trouble. What would he give, for a 5 minute journey? A quid? Flowers?
  1. I'll bet my last dime that she's young and attractive. If he'd been picked up by hairy Brian, he would not have asked for his number.
LubaLuca · 19/05/2021 09:09

I have no idea what I'd think because it's all so unusual. Giving a strange man a lift, exchanging numbers, wanting to keep in touch, buying a gift - none of it would happen in my life.

In anybody else's world he'd have walked the couple of miles home.

Sampafie · 19/05/2021 09:29

You reallly ARE bitter and it shows. Not to be THAT person, but you sure it wasnt what led to you being "cheated on loads"?

Sampafie · 19/05/2021 09:29

@Bluedeblue

Trisolaris · 19/05/2021 09:31

I have a similar story

My ex-boyfriend once changed a woman’s tyre for her when she had broken down by the side of the road with her toddler. She was very grateful and then offered to take him for a drink later in the week to say thanks (when the kid would be at his grandparents). Being the friendly guy he is (and a broke uni student) he said thanks, gave out his number and went on his way.

A few minutes later he replayed the conversation, realised he was going on a date and turned up at my house very apologetic and contrite.

I just found it quite amusing and asked him how he was going to get out of it! I was glad that he’d managed to help her out though.

Bluedeblue · 19/05/2021 09:40

You reallly ARE bitter and it shows

I'm not bitter at all. Very happily married now thanks.

I'm just not gullible. Let's see if the Op confirms whether this woman is indeed young and attractive. If she isn't, I promise I'll eat my hat.

youvegottenminuteslynn · 19/05/2021 10:02

@Trisolaris

I have a similar story

My ex-boyfriend once changed a woman’s tyre for her when she had broken down by the side of the road with her toddler. She was very grateful and then offered to take him for a drink later in the week to say thanks (when the kid would be at his grandparents). Being the friendly guy he is (and a broke uni student) he said thanks, gave out his number and went on his way.

A few minutes later he replayed the conversation, realised he was going on a date and turned up at my house very apologetic and contrite.

I just found it quite amusing and asked him how he was going to get out of it! I was glad that he’d managed to help her out though.

A few minutes later he replayed the conversation, realised he was going on a date and turned up at my house very apologetic and contrite.

Haha this is quite sweet!

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Sillawithans · 19/05/2021 15:04

@Bluedeblue not young and attractive no. A week before he did get help from a hairy Brian and got his number too.

@LubaLuca he wasn't just a few miles from home, he was a long, long way from home and broke down in the arsehole of nowhere.

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Bluedeblue · 19/05/2021 15:44

Ah okay. I'd say there's nothing to worry about then!

Tal45 · 19/05/2021 16:03

I think it would be a shame for you to start doubting him based on what your friend said if you have never had any reason to before.
I also think he needs to sort the bloody bike out or get a new one.

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Sillawithans · 19/05/2021 16:08

@Tal45 not doubting him at all. Was just curious to know how other people would react as friend said most women would react like her. He's never given me any reason to doubt him.

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LubaLuca · 19/05/2021 16:26

he wasn't just a few miles from home, he was a long, long way from home and broke down in the arsehole of nowhere.

She's a very fast driver then!

YarnOver · 19/05/2021 16:36

[quote Sillawithans]@Ughmaybenot it seems it's yourself that's overreacted as you don't know what my reaction was Wink[/quote]
You reacted by starting a thread on a relationship board to just check you didn't need to react so I think you are bothered by it otherwise why the thread to check..

Bluedeblue · 19/05/2021 16:44

he wasn't just a few miles from home, he was a long, long way from home and broke down in the arsehole of nowhere.

She's a very fast driver then!

@LubaLuca Oh yeah....long long way from home, but journey was only 5 minutes......??

jannyapple · 19/05/2021 16:59

If you've got no reason to doubt him tell your pal to piss off and forget it
Some of these replies make me feel glad to be single ...

MrMeSeeks · 19/05/2021 17:04

*Your friend needs to butt out and stop trying to make you worry.

It's a bit weird to change numbers IMO*

A guy once helped me out when i got separated from my friends ( and purse) i offered to send money if he send me a number so not weird Confused

Rubyreddiamond · 19/05/2021 18:36

@MrMeSeeks I assume he paid for you for something and you owed him back? Otherwise I still don’t understand need to swap numbers 🤷‍♀️

MrMeSeeks · 19/05/2021 20:08

Yes he helped me out, paid for my fare, very high taxi fare home.

Rubyreddiamond · 19/05/2021 20:13

That’s again different to this situation

wildeverose · 19/05/2021 20:17

How do you know she's not young and attractive? Because he's obviously not going to tell you she is 😂

AmazingGrapes · 19/05/2021 20:27

This exact thing happened to me OP.

My car was clamped. I burst into tears. A woman pulled over and picked me up and took me to drop my son off at nursery. I was so grateful and she was lovely, and we swapped numbers. So definitely from my perspective nothing unusual or suspicious about that.

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Sillawithans · 19/05/2021 22:49

@wildeverose WhatsApp picture.

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Sillawithans · 19/05/2021 22:52

@LubaLuca she didn't drop him home, just to the town she was travelling to.

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PaleGreenAndBrightOrange · 20/05/2021 15:19

This is beyond not suspicious. Your friend is stirring.

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