My H and I have been wfh since the start of the pandemic. During that time he has started working for the company I work for. I wasn’t happy about it but due to the severe stress he was under at his previous business I relented. He applied and got a job with help from my input.
I cannot continue with this to the point I am looking for a new role just to escape when I don’t feel I should have to leave. I’m in a more senior role and have a lot of experience in our area but we don’t report to the same line mangers. He constantly asks questions, asks me to check things then questions my advice. All I hear all day is him huffing and puffing as he is a bit highly strung. In the office I would be sat miles away and would be able to keep our professional and personal live separate. He talks constantly about work after office hours and during the weekend. I have always managed to switch my mind off after work and it is so draining. I didn’t mind so much when he talked about his old job as it meant nothing to me but it now makes me feel like I am always on the clock. Requests for silence are met with sulking despite me carrying out more complex work and sitting in/preparing for high profile meetings. Same goes for cutting him off from work chat after hours.
He’s doing better than he should be for the time he’s been there but honestly that’s because he gets the benefit of my advice. He’s recently been commended for something I told him to do that never occurred to him. I get no thanks or credit from him and I obviously don’t raise it at work as it’s a bit awkward.
I’ve been in occasionally to the office and it’s great. I’m left alone and feel more like myself but it’s not enough to make up for the other days at home. I don’t know what to do. It’s really affecting me mentally and making me loathe a job I actually love doing.