Is he tight or aibu?

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Went out with my Dp & LGirl at the wknd, saw a Joe Wicks recipe book, looked great barely treat myself, tbh it was for us all to use and he said straight away are u sure U want to get that I was like omg first what has it got to do with him, and he said u can prob get it online cheaper...anyway i said it's prob a reasonable price as couldn't see the tag. Anyway he ended up holding the bk as I was with my daughter and as we were distracted he hid it on a shelf! I didn't say anything until we left that section and he didn't say anything and I said were you going to tell me u hid that book & he said it'll be half the price online. Slightly petty but I just think it wasn't his choice to make! He also earns 60k and I earn 20k is it just me also or is that tight? Same place wknd prior he was fretting over buying dd a bunny as it was £15 she fell in love with it and I just thought really.

OP,

You sound like a lovely woman who has sleepwalked into marriage and parenting with an utter misery of a man.

You are clearly waking up.

The book thing was very sneaky, controlling and deeply disrespectful.

Who the hell does he think he is?

He wants a small miserable life counting his money and is putting off anyone that might create a circle of friends for you.

He will only get worse.

Think long and hard about what you want from your life, because it reads that he wants to control you.

I don't think you really know him even though you have been together 12 years.

Protect yourself.

60k v 20k - i'm surprised he doesn't enjoy just buying ad hoc/random/odd stuff for you.....and where are the shared finances re your child together??!!
Will you need his approval for things for her as she gets older and have to fund it yourself cos he deems it 'expensive/not worth it'?