Just to set the background, I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 3 years. We both have kids, none together. We don't live together but spend plenty of time round each other's houses.
The issue I have is that he never seems to want to spend any time with me that doesn't involve the kids. We do lots with our DC, and everyone gets on well. He will happily use annual leave to take the kids (both sets) away or on days out. He will research places to take them. If there is a rare day that we don't have either sets of kids so we could do something, he will then have his extra. He will spend lots of time planning if it involves all the DC.
But when it comes to me, nothing. I'll suggest doing something and he'll agree but then he changes his mind, or it can't happen for some reason, or something else comes up. I'll say this film looks good, let's go cinema to watch it. He'll check if the DC can go. I said to him the other day let's have 2 nights away in the next few months. He agreed, and then said let's take the kids too, even though we're already taking them away somewhere else the following month.
I hope I don't come across as demanding. I do appreciate the fact that he is so willing to do things with all the kids (mine included, not just his), but it's really starting to get me down that he doesn't seem bothered in the slightest about spending any time with me. I just don't understand it!