Finally said enough is enough and asked my husband to leave

[Boymum99]

Hi ladies,

I have previously posted on here about my marriage issues however for months I carried on taking the easy option and staying with my husband. My marriage was completely toxic but out of fear of change and financial worry I stayed.

I dread every weekend as we never have one without a fight but this weekend was worse than ever with a huge argument last night then another fight started before I had even ate my breakfast. I finally had the courage to voice how I feel and asked him to leave. Thankfully he listened and packed his stuff and went.

I know it is the right thing however I am terrified. I have 2 young boys who adore their dad. They don’t know their dad has gone so I need to break the news to them tonight. They will be devastated but I don’t want my children growing up in a war zone.

I am so scared but I can’t carry on being unhappy, Anyway sorry for ranting but I just needed to share and break the power of it, I don’t have many friends as my husband was very judgemental on who I associated with and again I took the easy option and drifted away from people.

Thanks for reading.

@Boymum99 I hope you slept better last night and today has not brought any more drama.

Thanks everyone. It’s been a busy week as my youngest birthday today but glad I celebrated it on my own with him. His dad collected him after work and took him to his sisters house which was good. It’s his party on Saturday so hoping that goes ok as my ex now saying he will come.
@SortingItOut- since we separated 10 days ago my ex has taken the boys to McDonald’s twice so had them for a maximum of 4 hours plus 2 hours today on his birthday. He is apparently taking them over night on Saturday.

Thanks ladies. I suggested counselling purely as a route to co parent but he would not consider that. It is 3 weeks to the day since I finished things and I honestly feel relieved.

My husband has not taken things well at all and has went from sad and tearful to bitter and resentful. He is telling me he is getting a lawyer and I get the view he is going to try and screw me financially. On a positive note, his behaviour has reinforced I have made the right choice.

Keep strong and it will all be for the best. It's quite common for them to go from 'I'm devastated, to I'm going to take you to the cleaners' it does make it easier to move on.

He has lost his control and emotional punch bag, going down the legal route will be his next try at control. However, it does make sense for you both to get legal advice. Hopefully he will get one that gives him a clear idea of what is reasonable and therefore likely to be agreed in court should it need to go that far.