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Original poster

Meant to be having first meet/date this 4pm - he has not responded to my cheery ‘still on for later?’ text

68 replies

Achillislandsands · 06/05/2021 13:52

Arranged to meet today for socially distanced coffee/ walk at 4pm. He has not responded to text I sent text an hour ago
Should I still turn up? Would you? Am I panicking? Place is not too far away

OP posts:
squidgle · 06/05/2021 17:51

@WallpaperLady

Ffs you texted him an hour ago. Not everyone is glued to their phone all day
Everyone under the age of 40 are though.

I don't know a single person of my age that doesn't text before meeting

Yellowhighheels · 06/05/2021 19:22

Hope it's going well!!

Original poster
Achillislandsands · 06/05/2021 21:12

Hi, thanks for all replies so yes he turned up. He was heavier than his photos but pleasant.
Not sure we will see each again but that is ok.

OP posts:
Fedup85 · 06/05/2021 22:08

Achillislandsands

Why do you think you wont meet up again...because he is 'heavier than his photos' or 'pleasant'? Hmm

Brakken · 06/05/2021 22:17

@Achillislandsands

Hi, thanks for all replies so yes he turned up. He was heavier than his photos but pleasant. Not sure we will see each again but that is ok.
It's so annoying when men post misleading photos.
Sleepplease1111 · 06/05/2021 22:26

@Achillislandsands

Hi, thanks for all replies so yes he turned up. He was heavier than his photos but pleasant. Not sure we will see each again but that is ok.
Ahh shame I thought it was going to be the start of a great love story 🙁
Original poster
Achillislandsands · 06/05/2021 22:40

Ah yes it would be great if it was a start of a love story but somehow I am sure it is not. I think some things are best left unsaid and neither of us suggested another meet up. We have only been chatting since Sunday and I had not invested in our texts.

OP posts:
stayinguplater · 06/05/2021 22:44

That's good the date went ahead but a shame you think you won't see him again.

I had a similar experience with someone not replying to my text after arranging to meet up. However there was no date. He just ghosted me and I never heard from him again.

Rae34 · 07/05/2021 00:54

I agree with a PP that there is no need to send an additional 'are we on for later' message if the time and place is already agreed.

I'm in my 20s and have noticed people around my age doing this a lot. I've had it with dates and friends and I find it irritating.

LemonLimeFlower · 07/05/2021 04:48

@Fedup85

Achillislandsands

Why do you think you wont meet up again...because he is 'heavier than his photos' or 'pleasant'? Hmm

Because she didn’t like him. Thats reason enough.
Jobsharenightmare · 07/05/2021 06:36

This is why it seems to make sense to me to meet up quickly so you don't invest too much only to discover they are nothing like the person your mind created via text. Glad you went. Good luck for the future.

I never send "still on?" messages to anyone unless it's been weeks. I think it does imply being quite needy or expecting people to drop/forget you. There are some ageist stereotypes on here about young people being glued to their phones and it just isn't the case for all people so don't expect "everyone" to reply to texts within a few hours.

TinyGlassOwl · 07/05/2021 07:17

@Fedup85

Achillislandsands

Why do you think you wont meet up again...because he is 'heavier than his photos' or 'pleasant'? Hmm

@Fedup85 - OP can decide not to meet up with him again for any reason she likes. She could have decided she didn't like the colour of his shoelaces. There's no need for Hmm
TheWaif · 07/05/2021 07:21

@Fedup85

Achillislandsands

Why do you think you wont meet up again...because he is 'heavier than his photos' or 'pleasant'? Hmm

Probably she doesn't want to meet up with him because he is heavier than his photos? What on earth is wrong with that?
TheJackieWeaver · 07/05/2021 07:25

“Pleasant” Grin

Best insult ever.

Better luck next time OP.

stayinguplater · 07/05/2021 07:50

I think it's good to check that the date is still going ahead if you haven't heard from someone for a few dates. Dating can be fickle, especially if you meet someone online. They could be chatting to a few different people or be going on a few different dates.

stayinguplater · 07/05/2021 07:51

Er sorry, that's days not dates

GentlemanJay · 07/05/2021 08:19

@PlanDeRaccordement

Why did you send the text in first place? If you’ve agreed where/when to meet then you just show up. You should only text if you have to cancel. Sending a “still on?” text is fishing for a cancel and implies you don’t really want to meet up anymore.
I disagree with this.
tinysundancer · 07/05/2021 08:31

I disagree also - it is courteous and sensible just to check it was still on as things can crop up and change in life - shows you are considerate more than anything

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