How often do you tell your DH/DP that you love them?

[Wetterthananotterspocket]

I’m talking once you’ve been in a long term relationship, married a while, after the honeymoon phase.

[trevthecat]

Nearly 7 years in. Multiple times a day. He's working away now but we text that we love each other a few times randomly too

[Lucienandjean]

We must be weird then. Married (very happily) for 35 years but we hardly ever say I love you. We definitely show it, and we kiss a greeting / goodbye, but we maybe say I love you every month or so?

We're secure that we do love each other, so I think that's just the personalities we are.

[HopingForOurRainbowBaby]

Long distance so every time time we end a phone call.

[Ninkanink]

Too many times!

(Not really - we both mean it and the words absolutely hold their intended weight, but I do sometimes worry that we might somehow dilute the meaning of it)

Probably 20 or 30 times a day.

[mrssunshinexxx]

Daily over text , on the phone or in person usually all of those

[Picklypickles]

Hardly ever, actions speak louder than words.

[Ninkanink]

Oh and I should have mentioned we have been together almost 15 years. 😊

[Chanel05]

Many times per day , in person and on a text.

[UnsureOfNC]

@Picklypickles

Hardly ever, actions speak louder than words.

Same here!

[AryaStarkWolf]

At least once a day (usually when we're saying good night) but sometimes more

[YouJustFoldItIn]

30 years together this year. We tell one another every day and always have done. We also still walk everywhere hand in hand.

[Grandbisou]

You can have actions and words 🥰

[AryaStarkWolf]

@Picklypickles

Hardly ever, actions speak louder than words.

I agree, having both is nice too though :p

[Ninkanink]

Yes it’s action and words for us too, otherwise the words would be meaningless.

We have a wonderful relationship and I love him deeply.

[Grandbisou]

It’s nice to read on here about people in marriages 25 years plus with lots of affection still ! It’s very inspiring. 5 year newbie x

[VienneseWhirligig]

Me and DH told each other every day at least once. I had the phrase we used engraved on the ring I had made with his ashes in. We were married for nearly 20 years.

[roastpotatoesss]

Multiple times a day, and sincerely every few days when the mood takes me.

I don't think it's necessarily a barometer though- my ex and I said it multiple times a day because we'd been together 12 years and it was habit, it definitely wasn't true towards the end though.

[didhr]

Rarely. I didn’t think it was the norm but clearly it is!

[Miseryl]

I would say it more often but OH never says it first unless it's something I've nagged him about recently. I've stopped bothering to say it much now. I'm quite a verbal person with my feelings so this goes against my nature.

I usually forget about the fact that he never says it but every so often it will upset me. He never had a decent explanation for why he doesn't say it. I believe he does love me but it's just another to thing to add to our long list of incompatibilities. He's a good man, good dad & step dad, does a lot for me and the kids but we aren't a fantastic match.

[JorisBonson]

Every day, several times. Particularly before we go to sleep or hang up the phone.

[TheVampiresWife]

I say it to DH several times a day, he says it maybe once or twice a week in response but in a very distracted sort of a way. Very occasionally he'll say it in a more heartfelt way, usually after an argument. I can't remember a time when he's looked into my eyes and said it or anything like that. He doesn't say it before we go to sleep even if I do. I wish he'd say it more.

Married for nearly 19 years but it's always been like this.

[TheVampiresWife]

Oh and he says it first maybe a couple of times a year.

[sapnupuas]

Loads.

[Woodlandbelle]

13 years together. Say it sincerely once a week but lots of kisses and affection everyday. Don't really feel the need to constantly say it.

[Osirus]

Been together 15 years, married for 4. I’ve said it about 5 times, the last time being about 6 years ago, during sex!

DH will say it randomly, about every 6-8 weeks. But not me, not even in response. It just doesn’t come easy to me. I say it to my daughter though, but it’s a less vulnerable sort of relationship. I’m very careful about letting anyone in. Even though we’re married, I’m cautious.

The first time DH said it to me I offered him a biscuit in response 🤣!

He doesn’t seem to mind. We get by just fine.