How often do you tell your DH/DP that you love them?

[Wetterthananotterspocket]

I’m talking once you’ve been in a long term relationship, married a while, after the honeymoon phase.

Nearly 7 years in. Multiple times a day. He's working away now but we text that we love each other a few times randomly too

We must be weird then. Married (very happily) for 35 years but we hardly ever say I love you. We definitely show it, and we kiss a greeting / goodbye, but we maybe say I love you every month or so?

We're secure that we do love each other, so I think that's just the personalities we are.

Long distance so every time time we end a phone call.

Too many times!

(Not really - we both mean it and the words absolutely hold their intended weight, but I do sometimes worry that we might somehow dilute the meaning of it)

Probably 20 or 30 times a day.

Daily over text , on the phone or in person usually all of those

Hardly ever, actions speak louder than words.

Oh and I should have mentioned we have been together almost 15 years. 😊

Many times per day , in person and on a text.

@Picklypickles

Hardly ever, actions speak louder than words.

Same here!

At least once a day (usually when we're saying good night) but sometimes more

30 years together this year. We tell one another every day and always have done. We also still walk everywhere hand in hand.

You can have actions and words 🥰

@Picklypickles

Hardly ever, actions speak louder than words.

I agree, having both is nice too though :p

Yes it’s action and words for us too, otherwise the words would be meaningless.

We have a wonderful relationship and I love him deeply.

It’s nice to read on here about people in marriages 25 years plus with lots of affection still ! It’s very inspiring. 5 year newbie x

Me and DH told each other every day at least once. I had the phrase we used engraved on the ring I had made with his ashes in. We were married for nearly 20 years.

Multiple times a day, and sincerely every few days when the mood takes me.

I don't think it's necessarily a barometer though- my ex and I said it multiple times a day because we'd been together 12 years and it was habit, it definitely wasn't true towards the end though.

Rarely. I didn’t think it was the norm but clearly it is!

I would say it more often but OH never says it first unless it's something I've nagged him about recently. I've stopped bothering to say it much now. I'm quite a verbal person with my feelings so this goes against my nature.

I usually forget about the fact that he never says it but every so often it will upset me. He never had a decent explanation for why he doesn't say it. I believe he does love me but it's just another to thing to add to our long list of incompatibilities. He's a good man, good dad & step dad, does a lot for me and the kids but we aren't a fantastic match.

Every day, several times. Particularly before we go to sleep or hang up the phone.

I say it to DH several times a day, he says it maybe once or twice a week in response but in a very distracted sort of a way. Very occasionally he'll say it in a more heartfelt way, usually after an argument. I can't remember a time when he's looked into my eyes and said it or anything like that. He doesn't say it before we go to sleep even if I do. I wish he'd say it more.

Married for nearly 19 years but it's always been like this.

Oh and he says it first maybe a couple of times a year.

Loads.

13 years together. Say it sincerely once a week but lots of kisses and affection everyday. Don't really feel the need to constantly say it.

Been together 15 years, married for 4. I’ve said it about 5 times, the last time being about 6 years ago, during sex!

DH will say it randomly, about every 6-8 weeks. But not me, not even in response. It just doesn’t come easy to me. I say it to my daughter though, but it’s a less vulnerable sort of relationship. I’m very careful about letting anyone in. Even though we’re married, I’m cautious.

The first time DH said it to me I offered him a biscuit in response 🤣!

He doesn’t seem to mind. We get by just fine.