Comments about Dds weight.

[Intrusivedilemma]

I posted not too long ago about H saying DD doesn’t need anymore chocolate because she has chubby cheeks...
I’ve just had a corker from my MIL. “I didn’t realise they get cellulite so young, you need to start using those legs dd”

She is 2. 2 years old.
I don’t even know what I’m asking. I’m so fucking upset. I really feel like I need to get a divorce to escape these endless comments about her weight. She is a normal 2 year old, very tall for her age and not overweight whatsoever. She is absolutely perfect.

MIL lives in our house with us, there is no escape. Even if I get a divorce she will be alone with them 50% of the time.

What the fuck.

@Kelly345

Devils advocate. Is it possible that she may actually be carrying a little extra weight and you are just not able to see it yourself?

And literally so what if she was. You wouldn't comment on it in the way that is happening right now.

You need to put a stop to this OP, no question. My mother and father did this to me, and I battled an eating disorder throughout my teens. I now have a healthy relationship with food but that's despite them. Your DD will pick this up and it will have a very negative effect on her.

I'd be making a negative comment about her appearance every single time. How dare she? Not difficult to see where your DH got his ideas from.

@billy1966 no, she lives in our home which makes it worse somehow! She pays nothing towards rent/bills etc so it’s entirely for her benefit. Even if we did rely on her for money/housing I still wouldn’t allow her to speak to dd like that, I would pack my bags and leave.

Dd never eats crisps or chocolate! Occasionally she will have a kinder egg (maybe once a fortnight?!), doesn’t have crisps because I’m traumatised from the time she choked on one last year 😅 She does have snacks but in the form of rice cakes, corn cakes, popcorn and graze bars etc but never like a bar of dairy milk if that makes sense. Although if I’m eating some I will share with her. I guess that sounds a bit contradictory I just mean she doesn’t eat like a full packet on her own.

H spoke to MIL who’s response was “I say stupid things sometimes”. No apology though. I’ve said to H if I happens one more time she’s out, ciao ✋ no more chances. Same goes for him! Little dd is perfect the way she is and I won’t allow anyone to make her feel like she isn’t!

She does have snacks but in the form of rice cakes, corn cakes, popcorn and graze bars etc but never like a bar of dairy milk if that makes sense. Although if I’m eating some I will share with her.

@Intrusivedilemma There's nothing wrong with children having treats in moderation.

As far as we know, your DH and MIL are being horrible about a perfectly normal-looking little one. I mean, who is like this about a child, especially the 'cellulite' comment? Dimply little legs are normal and healthy.