Dating a man 15 years younger

[Heidi3333]

Hi ladies

I have a date tomorrow with a guy 15 years younger than me. I met him online and we have been chatting for a few weeks. I'm sooo nervous.

He looks gorgeous in his photos and he says he likes older women (I'm 45) but find it hard to believe a young hot guy would in interested in dating someone my age?!

Has anyone dated a toy boy with such a big age gap? How it did go?

Thanks

@Maggiesfarm

A 'bad' what, Heidi?

I know why younger men like older women, it's obvious.

Is it because they've broken the yoke of misogyny while I was distracted ironing DPs pants, and now they respect all women equally for their intellect and abilities, but particularly value the wisdom that comes with age?

One of my closest friends prefers ladies older than him. He says it's because he finds them more beautiful, charming and graceful than women his own age. He's quite a mature person, I can't really imagine him happy with someone his own age or younger unless said person also posessed maturity greater than their years.

5128gap:
Is it because they've broken the yoke of misogyny while I was distracted ironing DPs pants, and now they respect all women equally for their intellect and abilities, but particularly value the wisdom that comes with age?
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You got it in one, gap :-).

Plus the sex is better, an older woman knows what she wants, how to enjoy and give pleasure. Older women are very sexy.

Well I don't need to worry about dating someone 15 years older bc he cancelled on me last minute!
An hour before we were due to meet be sent me a picture of an injury he said was caused by his dog biting him and said he had to go to the hospital. I asked if he was still ok to meet up or if he wanted to reschedule, he read the messages but never replied 😡.
I'm disappointed and annoyed.
He seemed so genuine the last 2 weeks we have chatted. I think he just bottled it.

That's disappointing, Heidi, but he may be genuine, things like that do happen. He could phone you tomorrow.

However, if you never hear from him again, at least you never met him, didn't really know him, and can move on.

Well I I did hear from him this morning explaining what happened and he seemed genuine. He hasn't asked to reschedule yet so I will just wait and see what happens.

That's good, Heidi, I had a feeling you'd hear from him.

He hasn't asked to reschedule though 🙁

@Happycat1212

wouldn’t be for me, but each to their own

Agree ick factor for me. But everyone is different. Seems to be so so many threads asking opinions on this lately. No one needs anyone else's approval let alone an internet ransom or is it considered "cool" to be dating someone young enough to be your kids these days and it's a veiled brag... Who knows just seems to be so many threads on it and so many people almost gloating like its next level when you're old and had it... As long as it's not my kids being pounced on by oldies do as you please.

Cstfish

Sounds lush to me!

Bonfireheart the thought has crossed my mind 😕

Met mine online, chatted for 6 months before we met, he moved in 6 months later and we have now been together for 19 years, married for 14. Same age gap, apparently I look young for my age and certainly don't act it! I'd had a couple of truly disastrous relationships previously and was just looking for someone to go out with and have fun - he's certainly that, and more. Wishing you luck!

His own dog bit him?!

Wft.

Well if you ever do meet, make sure it's a considerable distance away from his dog.

No he's an electrician. He was bitten when out on a job.

He has went quiet on me since he had to cancel. Before he was in touch every day.

Not sure what to do now...

Oh I see, I obviously didn't read that carefully enough.

Ime if people go inconsistent, flaky etc. they continue to be inconsistent and flaky. Usually giving them chances just means giving them opportunities to be flaky and mess you around.

I find the same with Facebook marketplace buyers (or rather non buyers) incidentally.

Leave it entirely up to him and don't put yourself out in the slightest.

Incidentally tradesmen tend to meet more people including women esp if they do domestic work than an average person.

Plus ppl on old are often doing the sweetie shop, flaky thing anyway.

Many 30 year old blokes love 40plus women. It's obvious why. Many women their own age want marriage and children. Many 40plus women don't want children. If the man doesn't want kids, it's the obvious solution.
Ive dated a few, just for the sex tbh, amd the first one I was a bit nervous and queried whether he minded my nipples not being in quite the correct place. He looked at me like I was bonkers amd said he couldn't care less. We worry too much sometimes.

I'm sorry, I've only just seen the thread moved on.

I wouldn't text him back now op.

The ball is in his court, it's absolutely his 'turn' to rearrange.

I've been on OLD a while and I'm afraid these excuses pop up all the time. It'll be different things - sick elderly relative, car broken in to, flatmate being done for drugs are a few of the things I've had. It's irritating; each of them isolated are entirely plausible so you can't really say anything.

But it's in their interest to not say they don't fancy it right now for whatever reason, as one of these 'excuses' leaves the door open for them.

The dog bite excuse is a good one. Haven't heard that one before.

Wouldn't bother with him anymore.

If he texts you, say as we missed our date let's have a video chat...if he says no, then he's a catfish.