Ex H and I still under the same roof past 7 months. Known for explosive arguments mostly started by him and his rage - including throwing belongings off the drawers over minor issues, slamming doors; swearing infront of children.
We have 3 children oldest 6, we both agreed enough is enough but neither will leave. We act normal around the children which is only 4 nights a week including weekend daytime due to work pattern. He sleeps on the sofa so we don’t have much contact.
Although I feel sad as obviously did love him the worst bit is I have no closure. His stand point was “ I can’t stand you, you make me behave like this, XYZ we need to divorce” he never apologised. He just started ignoring me after the last argument. Therefore I don’t feel like I have any closure. The main things that set him off were not following certain “rules” I used to think maybe it is me but it’s not because even if something annoyed him he should be able to tell me calmly not in a rage. He stormed out so many times. My children would cry from his angry rages, now they don’t see us interact.
Rambling now but not sure how to deal with it!