My partner pays the rent which is quite a lot. I pay council tax, water and all shopping. He works full time and I don't. He currently works from home and does not move from the sofa. He sits there working, playing video games every so often when it gets quiet and then when he finishes work, he continues to sit in the recliner playing video games. He rarely leaves the house.
I do everything. I don't think he realises how many things need to be done to maintain a house! He's never had to tidy up in his life.
He helps with our kids, but doesn't cook for them or put them to bed etc. He spills things all over the sides and then just walks away. He really truly believes he is a clean and tidy person that does a lot. Even our 9 year old pointed out that "daddy was lazy and mummy does everything" but apparently I've made him think that? He will get out of bed at 9 which is when he starts work. I've already taken my son to school and done shopping with my 1 year old in tow by then.
I don't think chores should be shared equally of course because I don't have a job, but is it unfair of me to think maybe he should do a few things here and there? I keep getting overwhelmed with the amount of mess. I tidy up, walk out and when I walk back in the place is trashed. I honestly don't know how it happens. I'm just frustrated with all of it. I'm exhausted almost all of the time due to partners extreme snoring and my baby stirring in the night.
Even taking the kids to the park once in a while would be nice so I can catch up with housework. If he had a physical job, where he was exhausted, I wouldn't complain as much, but he literally sits on his ass non stop.