Is it selfish I want to leave home when my mother has a terminal illness

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We've never had a good relationship she's in final stage of co PD she gets confused aggressive makes untrue allegations about me which some believe such as I steal from her she gets up during night I have to put her back to bed or she constantly shouts on me I feel I'm expected to be with her 24 7 if I go out she will shout help me and there's an attitude from neighbours I've been asked to be with her at night inase she wanders around and I wonder when I'm supposed to get a break or rest I've been offered my own place which I want to take but I know I'll get be for taking it as nobody else seems to want to step up and be there there happy to sit back and let me deal with her and there's an attitude if I dare want anytime to myself I feel resentful and used

Are you able to have a proper conversation about your mother's future with your other siblings? It does seem unfair that they have abandoned her totally. Would it help the situation if you told them/wrote to them all to say that that you are moving out and are making plans for their mother to go into care - if any of them are able to help then that gives them the opportunity. Perhaps they could deal with the relevant authorities in your place? I know I said I was off this thread but I do feel sympathy for your position even though, owing to the total lack of punctuation, your updates are difficult to follow.

I apologise for poor grammar I'll make more of an effort the brother that used to live near us now lives 3 hrs away the rest live in England only one in England has offered to come up to help the one who lied about cancer