So Many Complete Jackasses

[Sandra15]

Why are so many men total jackasses?

I have been a member of this board for a month, joining to get some insight on an issue with a friend, but have been drawn into discussions about men, dating, OLD, etc. I had a jackass moment myself last year with a guy and I have read similar stories. The OLD ones are one thing, but what about those women in relationships with complete tossers who abuse them verbally and physically and cheat and are selfish?

What makes them like this? Will our princes ever come?

Just been watching the boxing
I’m hitting the sack gorgeous
Night night beautiful xxxxxxxxxxxx

I’m hitting the sack gorgeous
Night night 💋💋💋💋

Hmmmm
I’m hitting the sack now
I’ll be playing a merry tune for u on this love wand
Night gorgeous xxxxxxxxxxxxx

Hitting the sack gorgeous
Night night xxxxxxxxx ❤️❤️❤️

Night night gorgeous
I’m hitting the sack ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

It's sending me to sleep .......

I’ll be playing a merry tune for u on this love wand

That's just ended me fgs why are you still talking to him?!?!?!

@Sparklfairy

I’ll be playing a merry tune for u on this love wand

That's just ended me fgs why are you still talking to him?!?!?!

Oh I am not! I just kept the messages for the laugh!

I’ll be playing a merry tune for u on this love wand

That should be in a short book titled "lines that murder female attraction & arousal in one second or less".

Anyway how do you play a tune on a wand? Shouldn't it be "love flute" or something.

Love wand!!! The ultimate fanny dryer!

I know, joking aside and all that, the last long term (and it was a long one) relationship I had started in real life, before social media and my ex (who is a thoroughly decent bloke; not perfect but who is) doesn't do Twitter, FB, IG, any of the platforms. When we were together he never said any of this stuff to me and I'd have cringed if he had. This is my one and only experience of it and I hate it.

I don't want to hear sex chat from a man I am not in an exclusive relationship with. No other exes from the past did this either. In fact I am not a fan, to be honest, at all. Each to their own, I guess.

Now I am wondering if every bloke I have ever gone out with was really a closet perv, just waiting for the outlet of social media to talk about his bits and pieces and where he'd like to stuff them.

The people who mentioned dirty talk— totally different if it’s someone you have an ongoing relationship of some kind with— very different if you’ve never even met them and it’s extremely early days

I’m not single but if I were then it would be a response of ‘bye’ — and block. I can only conclude some people use OLD as pure entertainment - they don’t actually want relationships, they just want wank fodder and time fillers. A single mum female friend of mine just wanted an ego boost and ideally someone to pay for the odd night out, she actually liked being a single mum— no problem with that except her profile didn’t quite match

Hmmm. Does dirty talk make someone a jackass?

It does if it comes unsolicited from a practical stranger, yes!

So many jackasses, I see it in real life too - both male and female but normally male just generally being shit partners and fathers. Probably why I'm single, having put up with one too many my bar is high and the candidates are few

I ditched OLD. Couldn’t take it any more.

I was always clear from the off that I wouldn’t engage in sex talk but without fail, every man tries it. Another tactic I’ve noticed is they’ll say something sleazy then immediately say “sorry” then shortly after go back to something sleazy again! What was the point in saying sorry? They’re not sorry!

It’s a totally different matter to do it within the context of a relationship but I don’t want to do it with a stranger. In the early days I tried challenging a few. I’d say “would you get talking to a woman in a bar and say all this to her face?” And of course they‘d say “well no”. So I’d ask them why they think it’s ok online but they couldn’t answer that.

I can answer that question. It’s because they don’t see us as human beings. Just objects for their sexual satisfaction. I think a large majority of men on OLD see the women on there as nothing more than images on a screen. They view us like the women they watch on porn sites. They dehumanise us. It’s depressing and bleak and that’s why I don’t want any part of it any more.

Yes you get the occasional good one (that soon gets snapped up!) but it’s needle in a haystack territory.

I've given up too, I just can't bear it any more.

The last profile I read I found the prat to end all prats. This was part of his bio:

''Every day is a new adventure...

I'm heart-wrenchingly open. I find myself fascinated much of the time. Touched by almost nothing. Prone to long silence and deep stillness. I hear the voice of God. In my heart; in the desert; and sometimes in the air around me. So many things fascinate me. Mostly everything. But not all of it.

And: the moon; stillness; watersports (I coach canoeing) and teaching; (how to make fire - like the stone-age men did); dancing; being silly; getting lost; getting found; doing something new; being somewhere new; being someone new; being everywhere anew. Dolphin, ozone and 420 friendly.''

🤢 😂

@ACouchDrew

I've given up too, I just can't bear it any more.

The last profile I read I found the prat to end all prats. This was part of his bio:

''Every day is a new adventure...

I'm heart-wrenchingly open. I find myself fascinated much of the time. Touched by almost nothing. Prone to long silence and deep stillness. I hear the voice of God. In my heart; in the desert; and sometimes in the air around me. So many things fascinate me. Mostly everything. But not all of it.

And: the moon; stillness; watersports (I coach canoeing) and teaching; (how to make fire - like the stone-age men did); dancing; being silly; getting lost; getting found; doing something new; being somewhere new; being someone new; being everywhere anew. Dolphin, ozone and 420 friendly.''

🤢 😂

Jesus. A little of him would go a loooong way.

Dolphin, ozone and 420 friendly.''

Sounds like he'd do well to lay off the 420 😆

@coronaway, and I hope they literally do bite. Ouch.

Jesus. A little of him would go a loooong way.

Classic.

@midnightstar66

Dolphin, ozone and 420 friendly.''

Sounds like he'd do well to lay off the 420 😆

Can you imagine what his eyes must be like. Thousand years stare and all that.

• thousand yard stare

Uugh autocorrect.

@ACouchDrew - Christ he sounds like an ageing hippy. I didn't meet this bloke on OLD but his FB profile says "I'm a great guy with a fulfilling life". So why do you need to be crude on messages to women then if you're so good?

Did you message the prat you found or was the bio enough to give you the creeps?

So many things fascinate me. Mostly everything. But not all of it.

^

He's done Phil 101.

OLD is hard but you quickly learn it full of liars, cheaters and loser. You have to develop a low threshold for blocking these kinds of people quickly.

So many things fascinate me. Mostly everything. But not all of it.

Sounds like one of those precocious, slightly nonsensical things a 3 year old might come out with 😆

@midnightstar66

So many things fascinate me. Mostly everything. But not all of it.

Sounds like one of those precocious, slightly nonsensical things a 3 year old might come out with 😆

Alan Partridge word salad with a dash of Keith Lemon.