Finding yourself after a break up

[crochetmonkey74]

Just that really- I have entered the stage of the break up where I am starting to feel grateful for all the SPACE i have, physically as in in bed at night and having the house to myself etc but also the headspace, the privacy, the uninterrupted sleep- it really feels and I know this is a wanky thing to say but it feels like discovering myself again- I am happier and more productive at work and am remembering how much I love it - I just feel like I am ME . I think I hadn't really realised just how unhappy I was and how much I was defining myself by the relationship. Anyone else had this experience?

Enjoy the feeling thoroughly. Sometimes, one can get slammed by the odd day of grieving that comes out of nowhere. Try to put plans in place for such days so they do not take you too much out of step with your current positive path.

Also, congratulations on your progress!

Yes, I am having the best days finding myself again merged with the odd one wobble which is fear of the unknown I think. On the whole the future is exciting though!

@gonnabeok

Yes, I am having the best days finding myself again merged with the odd one wobble which is fear of the unknown I think. On the whole the future is exciting though!

It's so nice to hear this , I've found the support of people going through the same as me so helpful.

Nothing wanky about it.

I'm just over a year post breakup tho technically still sleeping together in September then he announced he met someone 3 weeks later and I went through the heartbreak again.

I'm in an entirely different place mentally now tho. I threw myself into work and got promoted, the dc are happier than ever and I'm enjoying time by myself. There are the odd days where I'm low but more days are lighter and happier.

14 years with someone and I forgot who I was!

Hi , I am literally just 12 days after a break up - we were together for 8 and a half years, we had some great times but unfortunately I bottled up my feelings regarding my total lack of attraction for him which had been gradually building over the last 6 years, and although I'm glad I finished it, and I am better than last week, I just am a bit scared and I do miss him because I care for him deeply, but does anyone have tips to help myself feel more positive because I do see myself hopefully having a child in a few years with someone that I can spend the rest of my life with, however on the other side I would love to go abroad again next year and enjoy myself because I am 30, I just really want to be myself again because I am still grieving and hoping my ex is ok too

I'm still having this experience 3 years later. I love it.

sarz it sounds like you have a lot going on and it's so early. Remember that just because you ended it doesnt mean you wont grieve it. Come over to the break up thread , I have found it so helpful and it's still running

Heres the link
"Anyone want to join the breakup club? | Mumsnet" www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/4164340-Anyone-want-to-join-the-breakup-club

I am just over 2 weeks single
V long term relationship with 2 dc
I love the space and the peace but it does get quite lonely/ boring at times...