Left hanging in more ways than one.

[kneelingknievel]

Following advice given and used by me several weeks ago about my dating site profile, I started a conversation with a woman and it developed and we met up a couple of times. Yesterday I went to her house to pick her up to go for lunch and I asked to use her toilet, while coming down stairs, I stood on something about the third or fourth step down and tumbled down the remainder, hitting every one. As I laid on my left side, the pain in my left shoulder and elbow was horrendous, she came out the kitchen and burst out laughing. I couldn't put any weight on it and knew I'd done something that wasn't good, I eventually gritted my teeth and rolled onto my right side, pulled myself up on the bannister and as I stood upright, my left arm was just hanging and shoulder was drooped, clearly there was something wrong.
I said, "will you drive me to hospital please, I'm hurting really bad"? The reply was, "no, I cannot drive your automatic car". I said, "well will you call me an ambulance"? She replied, "you're an ambulance" and walked back into the kitchen. I thought, "you heartless cow", I managed to manouvre my left hand into my jacket pocket for support, wobbled to the car, sat for a few miutes to compose myself and drove the mile and a bit to A&E.
4 hours later, I was seen, x-rayed and after copious amounts of gas and air, the shoulder was painfully relocated, put in a sling and allowed to leave. Instead of going back to her house, I came home.
I had a very restless sleep with the pain, my fingers are tingling and I keep getting what feels like electric shocks down my arm, so I wonder if there's a nerve trapped. My phone has been ringing and pinging constantly from you know who, but I've not answered.
I've been in this situation before, when I took ill in a supermarket and my ex wouldn't drive me to the hospital which was only 400 yards away, so I walked, as I was in so much pain, I forgot to give her the car keys, so she was left trying to find a way of getting home with the shopping.

The way I'm feeling at the moment, I don't feel like even answering the phone or even sending her a text message to tell her were to go. She's not worth the time and effort as far as I'm concerned.

Of course she isn't worth the effort. Block and move on. If she can't care this early on, then it isn't going to get any better in the future

Oh my goodness, I wouldn't treat someone I didn't even like in such a callous and offhand way, let alone somebody I was dating. She sounds a bit strange and I'd stay well away if I were you. Hope you feel better soon.

She sounds ghastly

Forget her, she sounds awful. Block and move on

I'm sorry this dating experience was bad for you. Do not give up on dating but DO give up on this selfish prat. She is not worth your time please don't pursue this.
I hope you get on the mend soon. Pins in needles/numb finger is usually a trapped nerve or nerve damage. Keep an eye on it, regularly taking paracetamol for pain and ibuprofen on a full stomach for help with swelling and speak to your gp of the nerve problems continue as you might need a bit of physio to get your shoulder back in the right place
Take care @kneelingknievel and head held high.

Sounds like something my ex would do. People like this I are missing something in their wiring. Get rid of her

Omg

She sounds like a moron. Block her number .
Hope you recover quickly

She's shown you who she is, so don't waste any more time on her. I wouldn't even give her the satisfaction of a reply, she's not worth it. Hope you feel better soon.

Fucking Hell, she sounds hideous. Ghost her forthwith. Or tell her what you think of her in a message then block! I wouldn’t blame you. What a cow.....

I mean I have an awful habit of laughing when people fall (involuntary and I don’t even really find it funny). However I would ask if you were ok and anyone decent would help you get medical attention.

Sounds like you’ve found out early on what type of person she is. Either just ignore or tell her why you won’t be seeing her again and then ignore.

Well she has clearly shown you who she is, and it's not at all nice! I would be thankful actually, that you were able to find this out so clearly and so early on.

Block, dump and move on, there are nice people out there, she is not one of them!

I've blocked her on my phones and email, she's gone as far as I'm concerned, I managed a little sleep, but kept waking up with pain when I was moving. I've just had a warm drink and some painkillers and I'll be heading for a hot soak shortly, I'll take the phone with me, in case I cannot climb out and have to ring my mate to help me!

I'm not giving up on OD, since I met the nutcase, I've had a few messages from other women, I'll reply to them, but I'm going to take a week or two out for myself, I think this experience has sheken me somewhat, not the fall itself, but the callous nature of another so called, human being.

Clearly this woman doesn't have both paddles in the water.

What the fuck?? That's really mean. What a dick of a woman.

Hope you're ok xxxx

Hope you’re ok @kneelingknievel- maybe she thought you were being over dramatic? I’m not saying you were and we all know you weren’t but did she think you were kidding? She’s a twat by the way xx

What is wrong with people?!!

Wow, what an awful woman, you really dodged a bullet there mate

Upward & Onward fella, what a horrible cowbag bitch! Get well soon and hope you find a nice kind lady.

What a horrible experience. Wrap yourself up nicely, watch something a bit cheerful on the telly and let's hope you meet someone normal soon!

She isn’t wired up right, don’t let one crazy put you off

As others have said I'd avoid this woman. If she's shown you who she is, take note!
Most decent people would help someone who is hurt, or in need of care. The fact she found it amusing, and more or less told you to sort it yourself shows she's not a nice person. I'd block her number.
I hope your arm soon feels more comfortable. I'd probably make an appointment with your GP if it continues to indicate nerve damage possibilities.
Chalk this vile one up to experience, and get out there and meet that special someone.
All the best x

That’s just horrible. I’ve given more support to random people who have fallen over in the street! Most people want to HELP someone who’s had a fall, not laugh at them.

At least you’ve found out early. Next!

Thank you all for the feedback, actually, when you think about it, when I asked her to call me an ambulance and she did, is quite hilarious and a quirky offbeat reply, but the reality was I was in a huge amount of pain and I was suffering big time.

I'm a guy who will help anyone at anytime, but this has really rattled me and I'm sticking to my guns about having a week or two away from OLD, but will return and try and find a lady with whom I can connect and enjoy a happy life with. Is it too much to ask?

You poor thing! I hope your shoulder is better soon. You're absolutely right to move on from her. Even if she initially misread the situation and made a joke, anyone kind and compassionate would have quickly realised you were in pain and got you some help.

Yes, give yourself a break from OLD but remember her behaviour was inappropriate and unusual even by OLD standards, there will be far more caring women out there for you to meet. It won't all be like this.

Well, now you know why she was single.