Left hanging in more ways than one.

[kneelingknievel]

Following advice given and used by me several weeks ago about my dating site profile, I started a conversation with a woman and it developed and we met up a couple of times. Yesterday I went to her house to pick her up to go for lunch and I asked to use her toilet, while coming down stairs, I stood on something about the third or fourth step down and tumbled down the remainder, hitting every one. As I laid on my left side, the pain in my left shoulder and elbow was horrendous, she came out the kitchen and burst out laughing. I couldn't put any weight on it and knew I'd done something that wasn't good, I eventually gritted my teeth and rolled onto my right side, pulled myself up on the bannister and as I stood upright, my left arm was just hanging and shoulder was drooped, clearly there was something wrong.
I said, "will you drive me to hospital please, I'm hurting really bad"? The reply was, "no, I cannot drive your automatic car". I said, "well will you call me an ambulance"? She replied, "you're an ambulance" and walked back into the kitchen. I thought, "you heartless cow", I managed to manouvre my left hand into my jacket pocket for support, wobbled to the car, sat for a few miutes to compose myself and drove the mile and a bit to A&E.
4 hours later, I was seen, x-rayed and after copious amounts of gas and air, the shoulder was painfully relocated, put in a sling and allowed to leave. Instead of going back to her house, I came home.
I had a very restless sleep with the pain, my fingers are tingling and I keep getting what feels like electric shocks down my arm, so I wonder if there's a nerve trapped. My phone has been ringing and pinging constantly from you know who, but I've not answered.
I've been in this situation before, when I took ill in a supermarket and my ex wouldn't drive me to the hospital which was only 400 yards away, so I walked, as I was in so much pain, I forgot to give her the car keys, so she was left trying to find a way of getting home with the shopping.

The way I'm feeling at the moment, I don't feel like even answering the phone or even sending her a text message to tell her were to go. She's not worth the time and effort as far as I'm concerned.

You poor thing! I hope you’re better soon. She sounds like an absolute horror, I suppose the silver lining is you had a lucky escape.

Yes best blocked and move on.
Dont forget to block her on the dating app too.

But I wouldn't have called an ambulance either. she did nothing, so no excuse there, but a taxi was the appropriate response in that scenario.

At least you know your updated profile works, silver linings etc.

That is absolutely shocking. She sounds mental, no one normal would do that. So sorry you had that experience.

I dont understand the relevance of this, it isnt the same person and it doesn't sound the same at all...
I've been in this situation before, when I took ill in a supermarket and my ex wouldn't drive me to the hospital which was only 400 yards away, so I walked, as I was in so much pain, I forgot to give her the car keys, so she was left trying to find a way of getting home with the shopping.

You were walking distance to the hospital. Getting to the car, then trying to find parking at the hospital might not have been any quicker than walking. And you were obviously well enough to walk. And well enough to sound gleeful about leaving her with all the shopping and no way to get home.

@RachelRavenRoth

I dont understand the relevance of this, it isnt the same person and it doesn't sound the same at all... I've been in this situation before, when I took ill in a supermarket and my ex wouldn't drive me to the hospital which was only 400 yards away, so I walked, as I was in so much pain, I forgot to give her the car keys, so she was left trying to find a way of getting home with the shopping.

You were walking distance to the hospital. Getting to the car, then trying to find parking at the hospital might not have been any quicker than walking. And you were obviously well enough to walk. And well enough to sound gleeful about leaving her with all the shopping and no way to get home.

@RachelRavenRoth are you the OP’s date? Or his ex-wife perhaps?

I’m gobsmacked... what a horrible person. I hope you’re soon on the mend OP. Don’t give up on OLD ... there are a few of us nice ones out there, unfortunately we seem to attract the nutters.

I would be so worried if anyone fell downstairs. She has no empathy and sounds awful. Hope you feel better soon and at least you saw the real her before you wasted more times with her! I would be tempted to tell her it was a dislocated shoulder and you thought she was very uncaring and then block , so she might take a look at herself

She actually said "you're an ambulance"??

Well when she goes back into primary school tomorrow I'm sure her and her 'bffs' will have a giggle about it all

Strange woman

How awful for you but you’ve seen her for what she is. Dont give up on the dating, she was an exception... my first date online the chap was pleasant but there was no spark. I kindly said I didnt want to meet up again. He said with that attitude I’d end up sad lonely and childless. Thankfully he was wrong.

Get well soon and keep dating!

Why couldn't you call an ambulance instead of driving there?

@user77hjjy

Why couldn't you call an ambulance instead of driving there?

One suspects he was slightly in shock after his fall.

If I am 100% honest I have laughed when someone has fallen over and down some steps too. But I would check you are ok first before letting you see I was laughing, and if I saw you were seriously hurt of course I’d offer a bit of sympathy.

However, if she doesn’t know you very well and could see you hadn’t been knocked out or broken your back maybe it was just a nervous response to not knowing how to offer comfort. I am the same with people I don’t know well crying, I just don’t know how to deal with it and would probably crack a joke to try and lighten the mood. Maybe that was just her way of dealing with it?

I can’t be alone in this there are millions of compilations on YouTube of funny falls etc.

Hope your arm is ok now. (Hope I don’t get flamed for admitting this!)

I know those videos are popular, but I have never understood what makes people laugh about a video of a child cycling into a lamp-post or whatever. I realise it's not serious injuries but it just makes me wince; what is funny?

You were walking distance to the hospital. Getting to the car, then trying to find parking at the hospital might not have been any quicker than walking. And you were obviously well enough to walk.
I should think the relevance of this story is that OP was reminded of another situation in which someone who was supposed to care about him refused to help him.

I remember when I tore a ligament in my shoulder and it felt like it was on fire. I wasn't totally incapacitated, sure, but the mere fact that my exh didn't believe it really hurt that much was upsetting. You would normally expect someone you are with to at least attempt to support you in some way, whether it is offering to drive you or just showing sympathy.

How odd.

You haven’t had much luck have you OP.

@JoysexrenovationFingerFumble

Shock or not he managed to navigate his way into his vehicle, I'm just wondering why he didn't call an ambulance himself.

Yeah I don’t understand what’s funny about someone having an accident where they could be hurt. With those compilation videos there’s an assumption they are fine afterwards.
Some people get nervous laughter but I think that should be overridden at some point by actual concern, especially if the other person is in pain. Otherwise I think that person is weird and not wired right

Why couldn’t you call yourself an ambulance?

@PoTheDog

Of course she isn't worth the effort. Block and move on. If she can't care this early on, then it isn't going to get any better in the future

That. I am frankly appalled by the woman's callousness.

You're well out of it! Someone better will come along.

I do hope you recover before too long (took me a few weeks when I fell downstairs).

Had an accident that wasn’t your fault? I’m sure there’s people you can call about that, name escapes me just atm....

@DamnShesaSexyChick

Why couldn’t you call yourself an ambulance?

A) she'd already used that punchline

B) he wanted to get away from her, not leave his car at her house

C) once in his car, an automatic**, it seemed reasonable to drive the short distance

** Bloody good job it was too, and that we had been told. Just as the closeness of A+E was in both stories.

Apologies... I know I shouldn't. But I am intrigued...

You are Declan Swann and I claim my £250.

Oh dear OP. I think you should stay single for a while, I'm not sure our NHS can be doing with your lady related injuries in these pandemic times.

Good evening all, the reason I couldn't call an ambulance is two fold, she doesn't have a landline and I'd mistakenly left my mobile at home. I drove to the hospital because something I've had no reason to mention on here. I suffer from the debilitating condition Fibromyalgia and because I have a spinal injury from a previous fall, that has had a dramatic effect on the right side of my body, so trying to get to my feet on the side that is already weakened and not being able to do anything with my left arm, was understandably very difficult. So if anyone thinks I'm lying or telling tales to get attention, you are very much wrong. Why would I? I don't know anyone on here personally and have nothing to gain.

Had another rather rough night last night, aches and pains are still very much present and the muscles/joints are hopefully started to go back to the way they were, I just hope there's no permanent damage, but being 60, there's no guarantee.

And accelerated ageing to take into consideration too.

Hope it hasn’t affected your bike rides and yoga too much.

As I said, you haven’t had much luck.

Life can be so full of shite can’t it?