I was speaking to a guy on hinge and we managed to go on one date. It was really nice and he admitted that he really liked me and was hoping it would go somewhere. With covid and him living quite far away, we didn’t really get to meet up much. In this time I met someone local through friends and things were becoming quite serious.
I thought it would be the decent thing to do to tell this other guy. So I texted him saying that I am seeing someone else and I was really sorry - he said it was okay.
I texted him a few days later as I came out with it quite suddenly and thought he might feel a bit rubbish, so I reassured him that it wasn’t anything he did wrong and that I really enjoyed talking to him and I think he’s great. Because I thought this was better than being ghosted, right?
He responds to this with “what are you trying to achieve here” and “lol you’re overestimating how shit I felt about it”. I explained that I was simply just trying to be nice and explain rather than just end things without any explanation. He goes onto say “you’re acting like it was a break up, weird”, that I think I’m a hero and that I wasn’t nice at all, and that “you’re implying I gave a shit”. He then goes on to say it wasn’t that deep, I’m a psycho and that my head is gone, and “when was the last time your head was checked out?”
This has made me feel like I’ve done something really wrong, okay maybe I was overly nice and overestimated how upset it might have made him, but surely it’s better for me to be too nice than not explain at all? Can anyone see it from his point of view??