“You would be nothing without me” came from the lips of my partner this morning. I went out at 7am this morning to buy my own birthday day cards and cake from Tesco for this weekend, I came back around 9am to find hungry kids and my partner just go out of the shower. I questioned his priorities frim having a shower over the kids needing breakfast, and he went on the attack. Told me it was my job to feed my children, when I explained to him it wasn’t my job to be a father he because very nasty. Escalated in telling me that when he found me I was in a horrible flat, and I would be nothing with out him. He pays for everything so I shouldn’t bite the hand that feeds me.
When he met me, I had just left a 6 yr domestic violence situation. I was only young and was lucky to leave with my life. I was pretty traumatised. Yes, I was in a horrible flat. I was trying to build my life back up from hell.
I don’t know what’s happened, but those words have just flicked a switch inside of me. I feel sick inside, my ex said this to me often when we were together.
Am I over exaggerating or are my feelings valid? Appreciate some advice