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Is this a red flag?

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FriedTomatoe · 11/04/2021 22:08

Been dating a really nice man for 3 months now. We have a lot in common and get on really well together. There's only one issue- he refuses to drive to see me. The reason is because 7 days a week he volunteers for meals on wheels and is "too tired" to make drive to see me (1 hrs 15 mins) afterwards. The first month of dating him, he kept on saying how he would make the effort.

In the past I've been really rubbish at spotting red flags in a relationship and just want to know if this would be one?

OP posts:
seensome · 12/04/2021 14:30

You can't be the one to always go to him, there's no equal effort in the relationship, tell him you want him to come over to yours and take turns, why should you do all the driving at your cost and the time it takes to get there and back etc that is really selfish of him.

seensome · 12/04/2021 14:34

It would also bug me that he's willing to volunteer and help people just not willing to make life easier for you, he doesn't seem nice at all.

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FriedTomatoe · 12/04/2021 17:57

Just to clarify - we started having sex 3 weeks ago. I'm not offended by the sex on wheels comment. I think the women that posted might have a point.

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BlueDahlia69 · 12/04/2021 18:38

how are you feeling about the situation ?

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