For context , I've been accused of trying to sabotage my relationship with my partner of a year , by some
Friends and family. My counsellor tells me that while it is not a good thing, it's very common when a woman's trust has been broken. We are working through it ."
My partner and I were discussing looks/ physiques / gym bodies / youth etc and within the context of that conversation , he said that ...' perhaps we( meaning him and I) could ' do better..' but why would we do that when the personality: fun/ humour / values etc wouldn't be compatible .'
I cut straight in on the conversation saying that it was an awful thing to say to which he immediately responded by saying that I had misinterpreted him , that he was pointing out that of course there are people out there better looking/ fitter/ slimmer than us but they don't have the whole package .. it's only a part of who they are . I am
Still angry and feel insulted . Am I over reacting to this ( picking holes againas my brother describes it ) or was he just being straight and honest . He was talking about both of us who for context are slightly overweight, flabby and fairly attractive looking .
Do I bring this up again because I do t want to be anyone's second choice if he felt he could' do better' ?