Accidentally in love

[Cheesypizzaslice]

So I have met this really amazing guy who I have only known for nearly three months and I honestly feel like I have found a soul mate or the love of my life. Its complicated he's going through a messy divorce, I'm only separated nearly 5 months but never married from an ex. We both had bad relationships and have found such solace in each other. He's constantly saying wonderful things, I am the light to his day, he's so glad to have met me, he really likes me and through all the hardship he is glad to have gained me, we are even talking about holidays and introducing each other to our kids. I never imagined this happening but I bloody LOVE the guy, the problem is I don't know if he's ready for that. I don't want to seem too forward by telling him, I'm really struggling with not blurting it out but I feel like it's eating me up inside. Am I acting like a silly teenager? He's 7 years older than me I am nearly 29 and feel like a 14year old that doesn't know what to do 🙈

When it’s all the ex’s fault - it was probably all his fault. His description of his ex is so unbalanced and doesn’t paint him in a good light. Would love to know her version !

You're on the rebound. This is not love.

You've fallen in lust with the compliments. Definitely doesn't sound like love to me, it sounds like rebound lust

The quality of your character is shown not at the beginning of a relationship but at the end.

Op, if a relationship has ended there are obviously issues but most decent people show empathy and respect for their ex, especially if children are involved.Sure there will be irritations and some disagreementd but there shouldn't be full on hostility.

Don't allow yourself to think you are a much better person than the Ex or better suited to him just because he speaks badly of her. Are you aware of the idealise, devalue, discard cycle? Idealised is where you are on a pedestal and are seen as perfect. This never lasts and always moves to devaluing where he will start to find fault with you, finally after many rounds of this cycle, it eventually leads to discard- where he moves on to a new person.

I realise this is a few months ago but I wonder how it turned out?