Been up for an hour and a half with DS, tried everything to settle him. As a last resort I take him to watch TV. DP is asleep on the sofa. I ask him to put TV on while I make milk. DP doesn’t do this, he tries singing to him. It’s not working and DS is getting increasingly upset. DP has removed batteries from remote earlier in the evening, and I can’t work out how to turn TV on, DS still upset, DP still singing and not helping me. I get really angry and explain that I’ve tried everything, and this is my last resort. DP eventually helps me turn it on. I tell him to go to bed, as I know DS will settle with me. DP refuses. I go to bed fuming, but DS settles with DP on sofa. At this point I would have returned him to cot had I been with DS, but DP keeps him on sofa and falls asleep himself. 1 hour later, DS wakes up again and is really upset. Crying goes on for 15mins, I come to help. DP again refusing to put TV back on - but is trying to put TV on his phone. His phone crashes - but it takes seconds to put TV on- which I do - having worked out remote. DS settles in about a minute, and I return him to cot. Again I’m fuming with DP. As a rule I don’t use TV to settle, only when DS is really upset and I’ve tried everything else. I’ve just told DP I hate him, and his behaviour is nasty and passive aggressive.