I feel pathetic asking this but genuinely need some honest advice. I have been single for many years, some short term things and some dates but haven’t met anyone in a long time that I have clicked with. A month ago I started chatting to a guy on a dating app. Swapped numbers and the conversation via text and then phone call was lovely. I was working a terrible rota pattern at work and we couldn’t meet for a couple of weeks due to that.
The day we were due to meet I had to cancel as an event locally left me feeling very upset - he was very sweet about it and understood. We sorted out a second date that worked for us both and continued talking.
He weirdly went quiet over a couple of days before the date. I was busy with work so didn’t think anything of it. He did get in touch telling me about something in his life that that happened which meant he couldn’t go on a date at the moment and reassuring me it wasn’t anything to do with me. I believe him from our conversations and said I hoped he was ok, I understood and that if he wanted to get in contact again when things were better I would be happy to hear from him.
He has read the message but hasn’t replied, to be honest the way I worded it meant I was expecting one.
Usually I would just forget about him and not bother but he came across as being very lovely and also what was going on with him sounded really tough. I have thought about sending him a message to just say that I hope he is ok - it has been over a week since we spoke last and genuinely do wonder how he is.
Am I being totally pathetic? I’m very cynical after so many years of dating but there is something in this situation which has made me less so about him.