Daughters dad blocked me

[sophie2501]

So me and my babies dad live together, we had a big argument where both families become involved, I haven't seen or heard from him since it happened and that was 5 days ago, he hasn't taken any clothes he literally walked out the door with nothing, I don't know what to do I don't want our relationship to be over I feel so low right now

Ask his family where he is and if you don't get a satisfactory answer call the police

@StephenBelafonte

Ask his family where he is and if you don't get a satisfactory answer call the police

I know where he is he just won't talk too me and has blocked me 5 days is a long time

If you're rowing to the point where he's walking out and blocking you, this sounds like a really unhealthy relationship, especially when there's a child involved.

This sounds unhealthy. The blocking is a form of punishment. I wonder if when he returns he’ll end up making you feel like it was all your fault, and you’ll be the one apologising, capitulating, and then avoiding arguments in the future by tiptoeing around him? Be careful x

Does he have a history of sulking/not talking after arguments?

@Inaseagull

Does he have a history of sulking/not talking after arguments?

Yes but not since having our daughter, sometimes he will just walk back in as though nothing has happened, he's never blocked me from all forms of contact before, the longest is the silent treatment for 4 days- no calls or texts I've not actually been blocked like I am now

I wouldn’t call the police, he hasn’t given you any reason to think he is in danger, he just doesn’t want contact. Doesn’t sound good though sounds like the relationship is already over

How old is your child ?

@Happycat1212

How old is your child ?

4 months

Well you said he hasn’t done it since you had your child but that was only 4 months ago

@Happycat1212

Well you said he hasn’t done it since you had your child but that was only 4 months ago

Yes sorry he done it at the beginning of the relationship that was 3 years ago I just couldn't imagine him doing it with a child at home

What a bastard.

Whatever the row, this is an absolutely toxic response from him and his family are enabling it. He won't change. Get out now. It's no relationship if you can't address issues! The fact he's blocked you and you have a child so you can't even contact him if there was an emergency regarding your child would end it for me.

What is your housing situation? He aint dad material.

He’s sulking. Let him get on with it and don’t try to contact him. Despite blocking contact he will be delighting in having you dancing around waiting for him.

What was the argument about? (I’m just being nosey, it doesn’t actually matter what it’s about. He has no excuse to walk out on his child).

This all sounds toxic with his behaviour, families involved etc. I think it would be better to realise the positive thing would be to walk away. Hard in the short term, better in the long term.

He's shown you who he is, OP, don't have him back. Your life will be 100% happier without him in the long run.

He is capable of waking away for you and your DD for days. With no way to tell him if there's an emergency. He's not a good dad, never mind partner.

If he is safely holed up somewhere then you can leave him to it, do his family know he has gone and left you alone with a new baby.

This is not a good relationship, you should not be together.

I’m sorry to hear this as I’ve been in a very similar situation with my ex. When he finally came home he didn’t apologise and was still angry about the argument he invented. We left. It was a toxic relationship before then but that was the last straw for me. I was worried sick and he’d told people where he was but told them not to tell me that they’d heard from him.

Can you box up his stuff and contact a family member to tell him to collect. You don't need two children. Is he on the birth certificate?

Any man who walks out leaving a mum with a young baby is not worth your time, he’s not there helping you raise your child, he’s making you feel anxious and rubbish.

I’m sorry you’re going through this, this is not how a good relationship should be.

Do you find sulky men attractive OP? What do you love about yours?

@Happygogoat

Whatever the row, this is an absolutely toxic response from him and his family are enabling it. He won't change. Get out now. It's no relationship if you can't address issues! The fact he's blocked you and you have a child so you can't even contact him if there was an emergency regarding your child would end it for me.

This ^