Going out with younger man?

[SmokeyApo]

Hi all, I am due to go out for a first date with a younger man. He is 28 and I am 32.

I have only dated older men before (sometimes much older than me!), so I feel a little out of my depth here. Do you think it is a waste of time to go out with a younger man, if my ultimate goal is a committed relationship? I am concerned that we might be in different places in life, based on our age difference. But then again, maybe I am just prejudiced.

Any experience or insight is welcome!

I don’t think 28/32 is that different in terms of life stage. Go for it.

Personally I see that as a small and insignificant age gap. You’re overthinking.

I don’t really consider 4 years to be an “age gap”

You are from the same generation. Had the same influences when growing up etc. Unless there are other factors there is no power imbalance here and no one person taking advantage of the other.

Crack on

28-32 isn't a big gap either way. Expect some toyboy and cougar jokes but it's fine. I know a woman of 40 happily partnered up with a 30 year old and they have a couple of kids. It's all fine.

I'm 33 and boyfriend is 29, I don't even notice it. There's no difference in life stages and it's definitely not a waste of time!

I wouldn't really consider that younger. Dh is nearly 7 years younger than me. I was just turning 28 and he was 21 when we first met - he was still in uni! The age hasn't ever really been an issue for us. Though once someone did mistake him for being my younger brother.

It depends in what stage in life he's at not his age. Find out what he wants now, is it dating casually or a relationship, wait and see how it goes after the date.

Lol theres literally no difference between a 28 year old man and a 32 year old man.

Also, you've not even had a date with the guy yet so I think you're getting a bit ahead of yourself lol. How many first dates lead to actual relationships? 5-20% maybe?

Just take it as it comes and dont over think it.

Younger? It's not Brigitte and Emmanuel Macron or Sam Taylor-Wood and Aaron Johnson, for goodness sake. He can tie his own shoelaces!

Good luck.

I was 34 and my now husband 30 when we met, didn’t give the age a second thought.

Is it me or are there a lot of windup threads on here at the moment?
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Don't be a cradle snatcher OP!

Thats hardly noticeable at your age, absolutely fine I'd say!

Of course it's fine. Even if there were a 20 year gap it's fine. You are 2 adults enjoying each other's company. Who cares! Don't give it another thought.

4 years isnt an age gap op ,I'm 4 years older than my man ,hes 38 I'm 42.
A 28 year old should be mature enough to not act like a 20 year old

You want a age difference....I'm 67: my partner is 45: he gets on with both my grow up children & we are granny & grandpa to my granddaughter.
We have been together 20 years so it can work .

@SmokeyApo I am five years older than my DH, and neither of us sees that as an "age gap" - I was expecting to read yours was 15-20 years younger, not 4 (!) Breathe luv

DH is 8 years younger. We've been married nearly 17 years.

4 years is nothing. Just crack on!

I'm 46 and DP is 28. Makes no difference to anything.

Don't do it! 4 years is wayyyyy too much. You are in entirely different places in life. You'll hardly understand a word he says.

There is a 4 year age gap between DH and I.

Wtf? 😂 that’s not even an age gap!

I don’t think that really counts as an age gap. I am 28 and I could consider someone of 32 to be from the same generation as me and likely in the same life stage (or slightly further ahead or slightly further behind just like other people who are 28).

My brother started going out with his now wife when he was 24 and living at home and she was 32 and a single parent. To me that is an age gap AND they were at totally different life stages but they made it work. Can’t get excited about it really.

Another vote for it not being an age gap. Especially not given the ages you are now. Nothing to worry about at all.

I'm 36 and DH is 33, for part of the year there's 4 years between us. My Mum is 4 years older than my Dad too. I really wouldn't worry about it, 4 years is nothing really

I was 41 when I met dh 31. Been married nearly 6 years and have a dc now!!