Going out with younger man?

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Hi all, I am due to go out for a first date with a younger man. He is 28 and I am 32.

I have only dated older men before (sometimes much older than me!), so I feel a little out of my depth here. Do you think it is a waste of time to go out with a younger man, if my ultimate goal is a committed relationship? I am concerned that we might be in different places in life, based on our age difference. But then again, maybe I am just prejudiced.

Any experience or insight is welcome!

Lol. I actually thought you were a 40 year old dating a 25 year old or something. 4 years isn't that much. I understand it feels odd though. The most important thing is that you are both in the same place in terms of maturity and what you want from life.

DH and I started going out when I was 32 and he was 27.

We got engaged within weeks and married in a year. Been 15 years now.

It's not a big age gap and it's not like you're young teens.

Also

Plenty of men are ready to settle down in late 20s etc no matter what society tells us

Conversely plenty of blokes in their 30s/40s still see themselves as too young to settle down

It depends on what he's like. You've not even had a date with him yet! So see what he's like same as any other date.

It's hardly a great age difference and you are both adult - and you are both quite young so enjoy!

Thought you were going to say a 15/20 year age gap and was going to ask for tips but no, 4 years is nowt.

@LindaJoh sorry for hijacking but can I ask how were your children when you first met & did they accept your partner?
I’ve recently started chatting to a man who is 27. I am 46 and my children are 23 and 18. My children don’t know about him & it’s currently just a texting relationship mostly due to my fear of the age gap & my children’s reactions.

My son is older than my partner he's 48, ( born in 1972) my daughter is 35 (1984) my son was angry at first, he said....I expected something like that from my dad not you (me), but now they get on fine.
My partners mum is 15 months older than me, & his parents excepted me straight away.

My DP is 6 years younger than me. It's no big deal.
Have a good time!

@LindaJoh thanks for that. I’m delighted tk hear it can work out.

4 years is nothing. I am 9 years older than my DP, been together 6.5years, age just a number.

Sorry but that's not an age gap 😂

It depends how mature he is for his age and what he wants out of life.

In my 40s I dated someone 5 years older than me and then someone 8 years younger. The younger guy was more mature.