He got back in touch

[Zig27]

I was ghosted by a man who I went on a few dates with. I knew he was going through a busy period in his life which he had something to focus on. I know the thing that he focused on has finished now and he has got back in touch. He isn’t married or seeing anyone as we have mutual friends.

He has asked if I want to go for a walk. Should I not reply or tell him that I didn’t like his behaviour. I just don’t like the fact he thinks that whenever life gets busy he can disappear without explanation and expect to walk back into my life and pick up where left off as though nothing happened. I’m a person with feelings which he seems to forget.

Having been down this road myself a few times I would say No. He'll do it again.... no one is too busy for a quick "hey xx" text to keep the contact flowing.

You're convenient to him in my opinion. I would keep my self respect and tell him no, you met someone else while he was so busy ignoring you x

Zig25: I ’m a person with feelings which he seems to forget.

He probably doesn't think you took a few dates so seriously and regards you as a friend.

There's no harm in having a walk with a friend, indeed he may explain some things to you so you understand why he was absent for a while, but please don't read any more into it. You haven't actually been in a relationship. Be cool and remember there are other fish to fry.

Please say no has happened to me twice where they come back, they do it again. If he didn't like you enough the first time nothing has changed trust me x

It is a walk not a date.
Get some sun on your face and some breeze in your hair.
Chat, listen, laugh, maybe you will remember the first attraction, maybe you will just be glad to have gotten out of the house for an hour.

Don't do it! He's at a loose end and thinks you will do for now, you're worth more than that.

No.
A quick text telling you that he wouldn't be in contact due to commitments would have taken a minute and be basic manners.

You are worth more.

Don't bother replying.

I'm another one who says don't reply. Like PP said doesn't take a couple of seconds to text a person. You didn't mean much to him back then and he most likely will do it again. Save yourself the hurt.

No OP. Please don't.

If you say yes you'll be setting a precedent whereby he'll feel he can treat you that way again if he wants. You're worth more.

Don't reply. He cba communicating with you.
If you want a walk, go with a friend or on your own.

Another one for no. If he was interested in you he wouldn’t have ghosted you.

I think the nature of the ghosting needs more detail in order to give an opinion. But also, do you have enough people in your life such that you don't need a new friend, if you see what I mean, ghosting aside.

I’ve had this before and they always ghost again! Weigh up how you’d feel if he was to ghost you again. There’s no harm in going because you was only dating, not in a relationship & second chances and all that. but it depends how you’d feel if he disappeared again.

It's more likely he was seeing someone else than anythung. If he'd been honest and told you he couldn't be available for whatever reason I'd give him a second chance but this one doesn't deserve it. If you go on a date with him it'll show him you have low standards and he can treat you badly. Block ghosters in future.

Just block, then his busyness or boredom won’t impact you.

He ghosted you. He didn't have the courage to be polite and explain what was happening. Don't put yourself out for a man who didn't respect you enough to be courteous.

It might seem OK but no. Don't trust him. I had it happen to me twice by the same guy. Never again. Don't do it.

No no no. So disrespectful. Unless the something he had going on was grief. Raise your bar.

@willowmelangell

It is a walk not a date. Get some sun on your face and some breeze in your hair. Chat, listen, laugh, maybe you will remember the first attraction, maybe you will just be glad to have gotten out of the house for an hour.

I like this, what have you got to lose. To be fair he's probably just bored but it's an hour or so out of the house.

Do not meet this guy. Like most people are saying, he will definitely do it again. Just reply saying no thank you. You don't have to give him an explanation

I wouldn't bother with him, nothing worse than being ignored. People sometimes 'pretend' to not see you in the supermarket and walk past.
I would be inclined to tell him what you've written here. Perhaps it will be a valuable lesson in learning how to treat people.

If people behave disrespectfully towards you, the best thing to do is to avoid contact with them.

It doesn't achieve much telling them how crap they are. If they cared what you thought, they would have treated you well in the first place.

Ghost him.

He had no respect for you so you offer him the same.

Hi OP, I would also say don't bother. You'd be setting a precedent for him checking in and out casually when he felt like it. If you're mentioning your feelings here, I presume you were somewhat hurt by him ghosting (not saying necessarily devastated), so I wouldn't invite that behaviour again.

Its a walk not a date

It’s 2021. Walks are the only kind of date that are currently legal.

Another no here, how comes he wasn't too busy to date in the first place! He is very much likely to do it again, I think the too busy is just an excuse, there was no need to ghost you because he was busy, this is what making plans are for if he can't manage that then it's a non starter.
I know you don't think he's been seeing someone else but it's quite common for some men to have their head turned by another women to date, it doesn't work out so they come back, mutual friends wouldn't even know about it.