He got back in touch

[Zig27]

I was ghosted by a man who I went on a few dates with. I knew he was going through a busy period in his life which he had something to focus on. I know the thing that he focused on has finished now and he has got back in touch. He isn’t married or seeing anyone as we have mutual friends.

He has asked if I want to go for a walk. Should I not reply or tell him that I didn’t like his behaviour. I just don’t like the fact he thinks that whenever life gets busy he can disappear without explanation and expect to walk back into my life and pick up where left off as though nothing happened. I’m a person with feelings which he seems to forget.

I would not reply

If you were dating and he ghosted you, I wouldn’t reply unless you aren’t/weren’t into him. You would never ghost someone who you are really into. Unfortunately you are not his first choice and probably will be a placeholder and a source of ego stroke and validation until he meets someone else.

Also don’t fall into the trap of being just friends if you like someone.

I'm guessing that since you have mutual friends it would be difficult to just block him completely and never see him again. Go for a walk. It's just a walk after all. See whether he makes any attempt to explain what happened.

Seems going for a walk is the 2021 version of netflix and chill.

Answer him if you want to be used for sex and ghosted again.

Happened to m recently. He messaged and I gave him benefit of the doubt and he did it again 😂 he then tried s third time. Eh no

I'd personally explain why I didn't like what he did, couldn't trust him not to do it again and leave it there.

Fuck that. Don't reply and ghost him back.

I wouldn't bother replying

Nope. You deserve better and any time or effort you invest in this guy just stops you finding that.
He is at a loose end and you are convenient. Stuff that

He's got bad manners.

The least you want Inna friend, leg alone a potential boyfriend, is decent manners.

No.

(Oh and the bad manners are usually underpinned by other undesirable traits).

I'd just block him with out replying. He will definitely disappear again , dont give him a second opportunity to treat you that way. Nobody is too busy to send a text

I'd tell him right out. Someone did this to me years ago (before OLD!), didn't reply to my messages or emails, then a couple of months later he phoned me up. I said it was rude of him to have ignored me before, he could have just replied to say thanks but no thanks, and so I certainly wasn't going to see him again now. He apologised and we said goodbye. I hope he learned a lesson from it; I certainly did, which was I felt good about having my say! It's absolutely bloody rude to ghost people and if I end up back in OLD I'll be saying so.
Mind you I can see the other side up some extent as I've been telling the various blokes I was messaging through OLD that I'm now seeing someone, and some of them have responded with more persistent messages. It would have been easier to ghost. But I'm not an arse, so I didn't. Just said no thanks, I want to focus on this for now and see where it goes. It only took seconds.

If he ghosted you once, he'll do it again and you'll kick yourself.

I personally wouldn't reply. He can get a taste of his own medicine.

@DivorcedAndDelighted, good for you. They need telling. It's downright bad manners.