Got a message from ex’s ex on FB messenger tonight.

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So I’m going to guess she also messaged his other ex, who has much more of an axe to grind with him and she probably replied so he will probably be giving me the sob story about that soon enough.

I’m ignoring it, I don’t want to get involved in anything, why does his drama come back to involve me years later argh 😠

That’s it really just want to moan 🙈

What if it's something that affects the safety of your child

I'd have to open it in case it involved something serious or important. Bloody mad not to surely? It could be anything but what if she was warning you that your ex mistreats your child for example?
Just open it and then decide if it warrants a response.
Bizarre.

What if she’s having a half sibling to your child? Just read the message. Or do the preview without accepting that CornishTiger suggested or don’t read the message and hope it is of no value to you.

she is probably pregnant and wants to build a relationship with the childs half sibling

Come on OP. Surely you can see that this is a bit of a carry on. I get that you posted to moan, but it's a real non-issue and generally people post because they need support for the contents of the messages. That's all. It was built up a bit.

However, now that you've disclosed you have a child with your ex, my unsolicited advice is to read it. It could be really important about your child's wellbeing and welfare. With any luck, it's a really lovely message from the woman who is helping raise this child for the time that they're with your ex.

Nobody has been vile OP - PPs are genuinely baffled at what you want support with. Why not try posting again (maybe a new thread?) and actually state where and how you need support. Relationships board is full of wonderful people who will give you help, but not if you are posting something that doesn't give enough information.

If my exes ex partner contacted me out of the blue, and I had children with that ex, I would have opened the message just to ensure there's nothing about the children.
It could be all drama, which gets ignored. You only have to get involved in the drama if you want to.

Nobody is being vile, but it's a bit odd you don't want drama but are needlessly creating just that in your mind about how inevitable it all is. She could have just meant a message for a different namesake (eg meant for Sarah smith and sent to Sarah Sanders) saying hi how are you, and sent it to the wrong person by accident. Could be a blank accidental pocket message - or it could be something important (but not necessarily dramatic). It's hard to offer support for in unknown situation!

How are you surprised that she knows your last name when you have a child with her boyfriend. Of course she'll know your name.

If you have a child with him then surely you want to know what she's said? Just read the message and if it's not important click "mark as unread" so she doesn't know you've seen it

Just came back to this thread and can see OP is nuts. She posts about not wanting to open a message, rather than simply not opening it. Then vents when given reasons it may be sensible to open it.

Perhaps she wanted 20x answers "you're right op don't open it"

I think you’re a grown adult so it’s your choice. If you’re able to compartmentalise, open it, give it a 2 second skim, and if it’s bullshit just forget about it

Well that was 5 minutes of my life I won't get back! Lol

This feels like one of those fb status’s where the poster checks in at the hospital and queue loads of “are you ok hun” msgs

Or even worse the people who post “I’m so angry” then after their friends asks why , they post back “il inbox you “

😂😂

Just attention !

Attention seeking

Maybe he is dead and you invited to his funeral. You should def open the message 😂