So this is really out of character for me, but I feel like I’m at wits end. I’ve spoken to my friends and doctors about how I’m feeling and I just can’t shake this feeling and needed more advice.
Me and my partner are expecting our first child together, we did live together recently until I moved back to my mums house. In the spare room due to disagreements with him all the time. 
He changed when I found out I was pregnant, and when we moved together in our own place. He was living with me at my mums for a while everything was fine no issues, we moved when I found out I was pregnant as we found this lovely place! Catch being it was far away from home and I don’t drive. I sacrificed family and friends and familiarity for a nice kitchen and bedrooms essentially. It wasn’t too much of an issue to start as I was happy to have my own space and a little place for our baby.
Roll on a few weeks, we start arguing a lot. He would work in the week and I was staying at home not working, due to severe morning sickness and anxiety. He became less patient and had personal issues with his ex baby mamma so there was things on his mind. But he used to be so good at talking to me but as of late just hard to talk to.
He started doing things without telling me, like bought a new car, Was going places and making me feel like I was a nag but wasn’t communicating. The real issue started when he dropped on me he wanted to go away for two weeks with friends. He didn’t actually tell me I asked him what he was doing on his phone (ignoring me) he said looking at tickets. I was hurt because he didn’t even sit and discuss with me first. He also asked his sister if it was bad if he went away without me for two weeks before telling me. It started from there. He said I was controlling because I didn’t like the idea of it, and asked him before we got together if he had any holidays planned or anything planned he said no not really. So I was quite suprised. Specially as we haven’t been any where due to covid together.
I realise this is sounding petty.
He started coming home and going straight on a Xbox he bought and didn’t tell me, playing until stupid o’clock in the morning and if I dare ask him to spend time with me or get off it, he would tell me to stop being controlling and he will come to bed when he’s ready. He said “we live together” if I said I wanted to spend time with him. He would lie about coming home late, instead of saying he was going somewhere before coming home he would say he had to stay late in work. He downloaded Snapchat and Instagram after an argument and changed his profile photo of us to him and his son within the hour. He would spend his money Willy nilly and then use my card to buy petrol and things and tell me I wasn’t contributing.
He smoked heavily even though I smoked but gave it up for pregnancy and would spend a fortune on cigs but tell me I was spending too much on cleaning stuff. (Petty right) he would have private conversations with family and if I was on the phone to any one he would ask who or what they said but almost as if I wasn’t entitled to know the other way around. And in the same breath say He didn’t care what I did on my phones He left me in the morning of Saturday and went out all day and night for the rugby, left me stranded in the house far away and wouldn’t take me home to my mums (I got my sister to take me in the end) he didn’t tell me where or ask if I was ok so I last straw left and went to my mums and that’s where I’ve been since. I’ve not really had much contact, but he asked to talk as I wanted to know where I stood with the baby. I feel like I have a complex now about control and how selfish he acts and not think about us as a couple. I am aware the stuff is soooo petty but pregnant and isolated with anxiety I felt the arguments more than normal. I would break down and cry and get so upset when he acted selfish or blamed me for everything.
He would see me get so upset and it wouldn’t faze him.
At this point, do women get p*ed at their partner for no communication and them acting like I’ll do what I want attitude. Is it controlling of me? I feel lost. I literally asked my doctor for counselling because I felt he didn’t care and I was confused. I wanted to know if this is gaslighting behaviour or am I the issue.
Advice needed.... Take it easy on me. 