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Original poster

I can't bear mine any more ...

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carla · 30/10/2004 21:53

.... but I do have to. Anyone else in the same boat?

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MrsMiaWallace · 30/10/2004 21:57

am also finding things hard! do you need to talk? ill be here for a little while if you do

nutcracker · 30/10/2004 21:58

Yes me

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carla · 30/10/2004 22:04

He says I drink too much, but anyone stuck with him would, too.

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velcrobott · 30/10/2004 22:05

Is it worth saving?

MrsMiaWallace · 30/10/2004 22:05

whats he like?

nutcracker · 30/10/2004 22:09

Am i right in thinking he is alot older than you Carla ???

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carla · 30/10/2004 22:11

Well, last week we went on holiday, and he chose all the locations. Lovely to do a 50 mile round trip, and stay in the car at the beach car park.

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carla · 30/10/2004 22:12

Yes, he is nutty.

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velcrobott · 30/10/2004 22:17

Why did you stay in the car ?

MrsMiaWallace · 30/10/2004 22:18

can you give us a brief description of the prob? we could try and support if we knew more

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carla · 30/10/2004 22:22

Trouble is, I think he's got a point. But I can't be single I own our own house. He'd get to live in it. With our girls.

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carla · 30/10/2004 22:25

We stayed in the car,VB, cos there was no other option. No negotiation.

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nutcracker · 30/10/2004 22:34

Do you think it is the age gap that is the prob ??

My dp is 20 yrs older than me and it really gets to me now, cos he acts like some old, moaning, can't have any fun, man and i just sit there thinking SHUT UP.

He makes me feel about 100 years old.

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carla · 30/10/2004 22:35

Yes.

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carla · 30/10/2004 22:37

And the superiority complex.

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MummyToSteven · 30/10/2004 22:40

carla - have you ever taken any legal advice on what would happen if you split? is he trying to pressurize you by saying that he would get custody of the kids if you split?

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carla · 30/10/2004 22:56

MTS... I've emailed you - hope that's OK

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MummyToSteven · 30/10/2004 22:58

course that's fine

jampot · 30/10/2004 23:38

Me too! We went to legoland on thursday and had a really nice day, then tried to look at a car just off j9 M25 but ended up heading northbound instead (my directions) so came home. He wasn't too bothered about that as he was scared about spending so much money on a car but I felt completely trapped on the 2 hour car journey home. I kept thinking "I cant bloody well get away from him now if he starts moaning". Nutty it would be interesting to hear if your dh said anything about the way he was as he tried to belittle me in front of him the other night!

jampot · 30/10/2004 23:40

Also I think dh is what I would class as a "bloke" which annoys me. I definitely think I coudl do with someone a bit more "refined" . I told my sister tonight that I was considering leaving/kicking him out in the new year and she is convinced I'm having an affair - some bloody chance!!

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carla · 30/10/2004 23:46

Okay, Jampot and Nutty ... how far are we away from each other? I NEED you!

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carla · 30/10/2004 23:49

BTW, Jampot, I've got someone 'refined', but believe me, they're no better!

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jampot · 30/10/2004 23:50

well im in solihull (just south of brum)

I would be willing to try refined

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carla · 30/10/2004 23:54

((sighs)) ok ... no...noooooo ...nooo

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carla · 30/10/2004 23:55

They're rubbish!

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