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Dh doesn't want any more dc but I do

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silkyflowers · 20/03/2021 22:01

I don't really know what to do about it.
I won't have a dc with dh unless he agrees but I'm 35 and have one 8yo dc. He says he can't imagine going back to baby stage even though I've been saying for about 2 years I want another but he basically just smiles and nods thinking I'll get bored (to be fair I am a broken record about asking)

I'm seriously considering leaving dh because I feel so down about not having another dc. Am I crazy?! I totally appreciate that he doesn't want another and there's nothing I can do to persuade him.

I'm not sure if I'm just being crazy broody and I need to let the feeling pass or if I'm genuinely going to regret not leaving him because of this. We get on ok and life is ok in general. We are financially ok. I am happy to look after baby but he doesn't want another one. At all.
Lockdown has made it even worse watching dc alone and hit home that once we're gone that's it, no family left for dc. (This is why he doesn't want another though because we have no help at all and we did find it hard).
I suppose I just want to process everything and have nowhere in RL to.

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silkyflowers · 22/03/2021 00:18

The reassurances are nice to hear re being an only dc. The only only dc we know have family like cousins around and we don't have that. We also moved areas last year so dc is particularly alone as we only had a term of 'normal' school and then last year spring went into lockdown then summer term was really rubbish as it was a class bubble situation and no meeting other parents or arranging play dates easily. Dc then went from December to the recent schools reopening totally alone except for homeschooling calls which was so hard, they were breaking down from being alone and begging to see another dc even our local park was empty. We live rurally so it's not so easy to just be socially around others here during lockdown. Wasn't our plan to be locked down inside in the middle of nowhere for such lengths of time though!

@PerveenMistry I think I'm pretty good looking and still got it ha! But I know it's not a walk in the park setting up a whole nice family with someone else. And tbh when I think of effectively taking my dc away from their df that hurts too as we all are a nice little unit together. I just wish we were a unit of 4 Grin I think I will at least have to make an effort to come to terms with it all if I do stay.

Silly thing is before dc arrived dh and I used to have silly arguments about him wanting more dc than me! Obviously we were oblivious to the reality of having a dc before though.

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