NC for this and have been a bit vague about a few details.
My long term DP has always had a really awful temper and moods. But never directed at me.
Since first lockdown he has changed.
Some of the things I have experienced are
- being locked in the house briwfley
- lots of shouting over minor things by him. If I say don't talk to me like that I get a small punch on the arm/ kick in the shin.
- when his mother was unkind to me aying in to me about how awful I was to upset her. Bearing in mind j have never upset her intentionally ever.
- the worst incident was when we were dozing in bed one morning and our young son was playing in his room. He became frustrated with one of his toys woke DP. DP turned to me and said ' I am going to smack him' I said ' over my dead body at which point DP sat up with his fist to my face and said I will get you instead.
- extreme rages throwing breaking things in the house.
What has brought this to a head for me tonight is that he asked me why we don't have a small milk pan. I said you threw it against the wall I a rage and broke it. He just said oh yes your fault you angered me. I remember the incident and i never said a thing!
I am generally a very placid person and i decided last year to try and not say anything 'wrong' at home to see if that improved things.
Sometimes i do obviously have to put my view across in a calm way at which point he rages that he cant stand me speaking and puts his fists out.
He says it is all my fault as when our child was first born i had terrible PND and was a bit of a cow. This was a few years ago.
He says this is what has ruined our relationship.
In between these times he can be fairly nice. Although doesnt do anything at home.
There is substance abuse.
I feel like I am exaggerating things sometimes
If you have got this far well done!