Engagement gift

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Did you get your partner an engagement gift? Partners, did you get given one or would you have liked one?

I recently got engaged and got a beautiful ring (see my other thread, I opened a can of worms there!), but I want to get him something too. He wouldn't want a ring or a posh watch, he prefers more outdoorsy/rugged watches and I've already got him one of those. So I'm looking for ideas.......

A back pack with a picture of Bear Grylls on it.

What is your budget? Two month's salary?

@geppili

Yes you can get your partner a present anytime you like. There is no limit to gift giving

I don't think I bought him a gift but we did go out for a very fancy lunch the next day (just the two of us) and I think I paid.

On our wedding day I gave him a watch and a pair of cufflinks. I have then bought him a pair of cufflinks each time we've had a baby. He always buys me a piece of jewellry to mark a special occasion and I like to do the same back.

I bought my DH something expensive for his computer that he wanted but didn't want to spend on himself. Anything he needs for a hobby? Or do you want it to be a heirloom type thing?

@Geppili are you this rude to people in real life?!

@gutful yes, I have and will, but I wanted to get something to mark this occasion for him too. I didn't get engaged, we did.

@PrimeraVez that's a lovely idea!

@therocinante I like the idea of an heirloom/keepsake really. But he doesn't much wear suits, so I worry cufflinks would just be put in a drawer, likewise for a fancy watch (although I did recently see one made with parts from Concorde, which I thought was cool!). I will think about hobbies though, he likes cars (budget won't quite stretch as far as getting an actual car though!). A piece of really nice or antique furniture could be quite appropriate, as we're renovating an old house, but is that a bit dull? Or is it something for us both, as opposed to something for him really?

Congratulations OP!

Not an engagement gift I recently bought my dp some designer fragrance as an anniversary present - we're both perfume geeks and Guerlain is our favourite brand. They tend to come in a wide range of prices from "kind of fancy" to "heirloom bottle" so you can choose your price point to suit the occasion.

I bought my husband a watch. He chose it and loves it. It didn't sit right with me having an engagement ring and him having nothing

I think furniture is actually a really nice idea! If it were me now, I'd consider buying a piece of rare MCM furniture because we've been collecting it and he loves it, so that would be perfect. It's tricky though, isn't it - I know what you mean about it technically being for you both, but it's still something that could be kept in the family.

A friend of mine bought her husband 6 months' worth of therapy as a (very much appreciated) gift - now that's a gifr for both of you

Does he drink whiskey? Expensive decanter and glasses set, accompanied by v good bottle? That way there's something to keep hold of but it'll also get use.

@therocinante that’s a good idea, some nice cut crystal maybe? I’ll look into furniture too, perhaps a nice antique drinks cabinet to go with the glasses!

Are you always this rude to people in real life too? Or just behind your keyboard!

I'd look at something he can wear on your wedding day like cufflinks or even a pair of designer shoes?

I bought DH a personalised number plate when we got engaged, not everyone's taste but he likes it

It depends, is your partner likely to think you should have spent more? Like you thought he should and could have spent a bit more on your engagement ring? Or is he not as materialistic as you are?

You'll say I'm rude and my comment may get deleted but your other post made you seem materialistic sorry.

OP, please don't listen to the Bitter Betties on here who think they're more morally superior the less they spend on stuff. So your OH proposed with a deep fried onion ring? Cute. Big woo.

OP, you're not materialistic for spending your own money on things you like, and even less so for spending it on a meaningful gift for someone you love.

@Spied I hadn't thought of that, he may not wear them often, but they would bring back the memory of a special day

@Ilovecharliecat I already got him one for a 'big' birthday! Otherwise that would be a great idea

@happymummy12345 do you not think what you've said is rude? And I don't think it's materialistic either, what use is cash in the bank instead?! We can't take it with us when we go! I think there is an element of jealousy in a lot of these posts too (although I'm sure I'll be shot down for that comment as well!)

Thank you @rainbowmash it's nice to hear something nice amongst the vitriol!

@Geppili I think you're hilarious and not at all rude

I didn't see the fairness in my DH buying me an engagement ring and him getting nothing in return. We always bang on about equality between the genders, so if we are changing one-sided traditions that one should go too.

He got his own proposal and engagement ring. It just so happened he proposed to me a week earlier but my plans had already been put in place.

Just come off shift so have only just caught up! Op My comment was meant to be a tongue in cheek nod to the materialistic and normative Debeers campaign, NOT a dig at you! Also budget is useful for any purchase. I'd buy him an amazing holiday/retreat for both of you.

@harriethoyle yes, it's hilarious when a group of people round up on one individual and spout horrible, presumptive and, in some cases, abusive comments, while more still watch on and laugh. In person or on the playground I think it gets called bullying! It's a good job I know myself well enough to know what you're saying of me is untrue and I'm confident enough in myself not to take it to heart.

I agree @Alarae. He's not a ring person though, he's already said he doesn't want a wedding ring, so that wouldn't work for us.

@Geppili I'm sorry, I assumed you were referring to my other post where I've so far received 16 pages of abuse for asking what reference, if any, people think is relevant now (assuming the de beers reference is outdated). The general consensus seems to be that unless you receive a haribo ring then you don't really love each other. My back up will be to pay for our honeymoon