Engagement gift

[BlingRing1]

Did you get your partner an engagement gift? Partners, did you get given one or would you have liked one?

I recently got engaged and got a beautiful ring (see my other thread, I opened a can of worms there!), but I want to get him something too. He wouldn't want a ring or a posh watch, he prefers more outdoorsy/rugged watches and I've already got him one of those. So I'm looking for ideas.......

I think this is a tricky one because hopefully you will wear your engagement ring for the rest of your life, and ideally you want something in the same spirit. Unless you go for a ring or a very classic, very high end watch, I think it is difficult to find a truly forever gift for a guy.

How about a 2021 gold sovereign?

My sister got her DH the latest Xbox as a surprise after he got her a stellar engagement ring. He loved it.

OP,

You know him best, his likes & dislikes...get him something he will love & enjoy. If not a ring or cufflinks as you've said he won't wear one & other likely will end up in a drawer...think of something that is personal to him, if he loves art then a nice piece by one of his favourites, if he loves books a first edition...something rare, special & significant to him. It doesn't have to be a gesture for a to see but private & personal. A surprise would be lovely...but if you are really stuck, just ask him... Half the comments above have been deleted so can't see what's been suggested & rejected!

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@BlingRing1 I haven't said anything at all about you, untrue or not, I see no bullying on this thread and you've apologised to @Geppili for not recognising what was a funny, tongue in cheek comment. Lots of assumptions and unpleasantness on your part about a comment that wasn't even directed at you!

@harriethoyle For what it is worth, Harriet your good natured humour and personal recognition of mine made my day!

@Geppili

I've taken @Geppili at their word, that it was simply a tongue in cheek comment made with no reference to anything else, but I find it hard to believe anyone reading it would find it 'hilarious' unless you associated it with my other thread, where many have made similar remarks in a very unkind and disparaging manner, such as @happymummy12345. If you say I'm wrong then I take that back too.

@cheeseismydownfall I do keep coming back to the idea of a watch too. He may not wear it everyday, but he would on our wedding day and it could become an heirloom, like my ring.

@CrabPuff he's not a gamer, so that wouldn't work

@SionnachGlic we did enjoy watch home is where the art is on bbc 2 and talked about commissioning our own piece for our house once its finished, so that could be an idea too. We're not big art lovers, but it would be very personal to us.

I'm glad I've started this thread, even if not for our engagement, I've got a few birthday present ideas too!! Thank you everyone!

@Geppili I burst out laughing when I read that

@MaLarkinn because of my other thread? Or do I just not get it?!

[quote BlingRing1]@MaLarkinn because of my other thread? Or do I just not get it?![/quote]
You're taking this way too personally!

It's a well known, long standing thing that men are 'supposed to' spend two months salary on an engagement ring. Many people find that ridiculous and it's often discussed both in here and in real life. So the joke was that if men are supposed to spend two months salary on their engagement to the woman, a woman could be expected to spend the same on the man.

I didn't see your other thread and the comment made me chuckle because it was just a joke about a silly tradition, nothing to do with you!

Well on that post and this one I've been called materialistic, grabby, sexist, outdated, depressing, ugly, selfish, foolish, the list goes on. Hard not to take it personally really.

I guess I don't get it because I'd quite happily spend 2-3 months salary on an engagement gift for him?!

@BlingRing1

Well on that post and this one I've been called materialistic, grabby, sexist, outdated, depressing, ugly, selfish, foolish, the list goes on. Hard not to take it personally really.

I guess I don't get it because I'd quite happily spend 2-3 months salary on an engagement gift for him?!

You're determined to see ulterior motives when I took the time to explain that for many people totally unaware of your other post, the comment was seen as a funny reference to a well known tradition and absolutely nothing to do with your personal situation.

You've been rude a number of posters who have done nothing to warrant it at all, including me who took the time to explain and reassure you that it wasn't personal as I didn't like the thought of you being upset when malice wasn't meant by some people.

I don't think I should have bothered as you've just been snarky in response, so cheers for that!

You're wrong @BlingRing1 and I wait with positively bated breath for your apology.

If he is outdoorsy could you get him a special engraved compass or pocket knife?

I don't think I've been rude. I actually thought that once I listed out the sort of abuse I'd received (17 pages worth now!) you might understand why I'd taken things personally. I guess not though. I really wasn't being snarky either (or at least not intentionally), I'm not even sure what you mean by that, what did I say that was snarky?

I take it back then @harriethoyle I'm sorry I was mistaken. Although, as your friend above says, there's no need to be snarky!

@PomPomSugar another good idea, thank you

I’m worried I’m not sure what my boyfriend is getting me or hinting. He told me he’s getting me an very expensive gift. But said don’t ask me what it is or try to find out what it is etc. he said he’ll give it to me when the times right. We been together for 2 yrs. wtf is he trying to get me ? Or hinting at ? hmm