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A guy from school I had to block (Bye Felipe :) )

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SoulofanAggron · 07/03/2021 20:52

Hi all, I thought I would show you the absolute gems I got last night (TW Male tragic attempts at sexual talk.)

This is someone I knew slightly many years ago. When he goes 'I'm not my sister' it's because we'd been talking about how his sister used to bully me.

I've blocked, but half thinking I should say something else about how not ok his behaviour was.

I would've been more assertive/firm but wasn't sure what to do at first as he's an old school 'friend' and I think he was drunk. But in the end I decided I had to block him as I don't keep potentially dodgy types around nowadays.

A guy from school I had to block (Bye Felipe :) )

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DavidsSchitt · 08/03/2021 09:32

Ewwww

MarshmallowAra · 08/03/2021 09:32

accidentally let himself into the wrong woman's house'

Let yourself in implies you have been given a key - how do you let yourself into the wrong woman's house without a key to that particular house?

Was her house open? And it just happened to be an.open house very close to another woman's house he was presumably involved with that's also left open?!

MNWorldisCrazy · 08/03/2021 09:38

@something2say

Dont whatever you do follow Wizard's advice!!!!

And tempting tho it may be, don't unblock to tell him about himself. The fact that he broke into a strange woman's house is a red flag, his messages are further red flags. I'd keep him blocked. And be careful for the next two weeks.

To be fair, he wasn't found guilty of doing that. I'm not sticking up for him here but it just goes to show that once a person is accused of a crime, even if the charges are dropped, they're considered guilty by the wider public!

As you were...

IamTotoro · 08/03/2021 09:39

How embarrassing for him.

MarshmallowAra · 08/03/2021 09:42

Also reminds me of Jim Carey in Dumb and Dumber saying "i like you a lot".

So those are his best lines?

I like you a lot.
I want to luck and suck every part of your body.
I want to fuck the shit out of you.
I have 8 inches.

(And this dude hasn't met you or seen you for years? And you weren't ever together?)

I wonder do these guys find their way to "escorts" when their free sex attempts fail - by fk those women earn their money.

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SoulofanAggron · 08/03/2021 09:49

@MarshmallowAra Yep I think 8 ins is maybe the knob size equivalent of 5ft 8, that they all claim to have.

I don't know any more about the house incident, that's all he told me when I happened to run into him while it was going on in 2004. I don't know if he was convicted of anything in the end, maybe I'll try and find out from mutual friends.

@MNWorldisCrazy I don't know what the outcome was or whether it evn went to court. It's certainly reasonable (for women especially) to be more cautious around men who've been accused of crimes. We all know how rare it is for a bloke to be convicted for rape after all, even though a lot of rapes happen. Just because they can't prove something doesn't mean it didn't happen. Not being found guilty doesn't mean being found innocent. But all this is an aside.

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SoulofanAggron · 08/03/2021 09:56

(And this dude hasn't met you or seen you for years? And you weren't ever together?)

@MarshmallowAra I only saw him once since I was 16 (in 1993.) Nope, we were never lovers or anything.

I wonder do these guys find their way to "escorts" when their free sex attempts fail - by fk those women earn their money.

Lol!

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jay55 · 08/03/2021 10:14

I can't imagine this approach ever works.

Do men have an urban legend that it worked for Brian's cousin's brother's workmate?

CandyLeBonBon · 08/03/2021 10:21

To be fair, in a huge majority of cases, charges are dropped if they are acquitted because the evidence cannot prove beyond reasonable doubt, that the defendant is guilty. Not because they didn't do it.

Acquittal does not equal innocent, in only equals unproven which is not the same thing.

MarshmallowAra · 08/03/2021 10:25

Yep I think 8 ins is maybe the knob size equivalent of 5ft 8, that they all claim to have.

Isn't 5 or 6 average.

Plus you can tell they're all porn sick with the 8 in. thing ... How many women's cervix positions is compatible with 8 inches?
Also notable they never mention girth - far more important.

They're just in their own porn-y little world.

baileys6904 · 08/03/2021 10:28

@candylebonbon By that theory, every case has to go to court to prove they're innocent.

I could accuse you of breaking into my house and shitting on my carpet. The police would investigate, realise the accusation was rubbish and drop the charge.

By you're theory, that's not enough, you still did it, but there was just not enough proof

MarshmallowAra · 08/03/2021 10:38

@jay55

I can't imagine this approach ever works.

Do men have an urban legend that it worked for Brian's cousin's brother's workmate?

Definitely. I went out with a man who told me that the middle aged men in his rural small town claimed they "scored" sex first night regularly from dating sites. What lines said they were using .... I don't know.

Also, once in a while they will get something out of this ... Numbers game.

icdtap · 08/03/2021 10:50

What does TW Male mean?

Anyway, he'd have been blocked long before you blocked him.
What a prize prick he is.

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SoulofanAggron · 08/03/2021 10:53

Also, once in a while they will get something out of this ... Numbers game.

@MarshmallowAra Aww, are you saying I'm not special?

I could accuse you of breaking into my house and shitting on my carpet. The police would investigate, realise the accusation was rubbish and drop the charge. By you're theory, that's not enough, you still did it, but there was just not enough proof

@baileys6904 Unfortunately the police can be really, really, really, really crap. I know from first hand experience of trying to get a bloke done for rape. Maybe '8in guy' was convicted of the 'being in the wrong house' thing, I don't know. He said that thankfully he got through his legal troubles with the help of his family and friends.

Women being cautious around men, especially ones who've been accused of crimes, is very sensible.

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SoulofanAggron · 08/03/2021 10:55

@icdtap Sorry I meant TW: (Trigger Warning.)

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willloman · 08/03/2021 10:59

Sure his sister didn't get on his phone? Sounds like a wind up to me...

Wanderlusto · 08/03/2021 11:07

As pp said - I bet it's his sister.

She used to bully you right?
She is probably still a psycho. 'I'm not my sister'. Yes you are!

Also, charges for accidentally entering someone else's house? How does that work? Presumably if he stumbled into someone else's home drunk, there would have bern a bashful appology and he would have left. Or maybe the police would have bern called to remove him and he could have had charges like resisting arrest or some shit...bit I dont see how you could be charged with entering the wrong house... ... unless he broke in.

Hidinginstaircupboard · 08/03/2021 11:21

You were right to block him
But I'd say be careful at ending your sentences with a "x" and what your replies were
Men - or anyone- this predatory, might read that as encouragement as it can be read as a kiss and your replies weren't clear 'wtaf' or no.

I wish you'd said "stop texting me sexual suggestions, I don't want them" ... he really tried hard to ring you didn't he?

I understand you were trying to be polite but please don't be if this happens again.

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SoulofanAggron · 08/03/2021 11:26

Sure his sister didn't get on his phone? Sounds like a wind up to me

I don't think it's a wind up as in fake unfortunately. I've known a lot of men who were sleazy in one way or another over the years and obsessed with sex. A lot of them thought all types of ways of talking or acting towards women were ok if it gets their rocks off.

A PP posted a similar 'conversation' that she endured.

He and his sister are both in their 40s and don't live together or anything. He said he doesn't see her often.

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DavidsSchitt · 08/03/2021 11:30

"As pp said - I bet it's his sister."

As if 😂 what was she going to do once the OP answered any of those calls? Put on a deep voice? Don't be silly.

Why do you think it's so impossible that this was a fucking prick of a man who thinks he's irresistible?

Hoppinggreen · 08/03/2021 11:32

Is
“I want to fuck the shit out of you”
What passes for a chat up line now?

Wanderlusto · 08/03/2021 11:34

@DavidsSchitt

"As pp said - I bet it's his sister."

As if 😂 what was she going to do once the OP answered any of those calls? Put on a deep voice? Don't be silly.

Why do you think it's so impossible that this was a fucking prick of a man who thinks he's irresistible?

I certainly don't think its impossible. Just coincidental that his sister was her childhood bully. Do you think it's impossible that women can be sociopaths who enjoy online harassment for fun? ... ... probably not, if you've bern on mumsnet long tbf xD

But yeah it sounds like it is just a weirdo guy this time, based on ops update.

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SoulofanAggron · 08/03/2021 11:35

I understand you were trying to be polite but please don't be if this happens again.

@Hidinginstaircupboard When it comes to 'x's, I get what you mean but I said 'In the middle of something. Sleep well.x' I took a while phrasing that one lol, it started out as 'you're drunk. Go and sleep it off.'

If it had been some random guy I like to think I'dve been ruder, it was just that I kind of know him and liked having his acquaintance-ship.

I'm still learning though, I used to be far worse at telling people to stop stuff.

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MarkRuffaloCrumble · 08/03/2021 11:55

Sister is a bully, brother is a sex pest. Coincidence probably not. Both brought up by shitty parents who didn’t teach them boundaries and decent human behaviour.

ahsan · 08/03/2021 11:58

Don’t understand how that is suppose to turn you on 😂what a creep 😂your far too patient would have blocked him earlier sounds predatory stay clear. Men like this have sex with any women who is willing to open her legs and will never be satisfied as they will always be on the hunt. What a freak

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