I posted a few weeks ago regarding my husband and a female friendship he had and how this particular friendship left me feeling uncomfortable. Most people seemed to be of the opinion of an emotional affair at best - at worst he was cheating. I told him that for the sake of our marriage he had to stop contact with her (for the record I have no problem with female friends, just this one due to particular issues with my husband's behaviour regarding her) and if he was in contact with her again that would be it. My spidey senses tingled yesterday so I asked him. He denied so I said if he let me look at his itemised billing on his phone, if there were no messages then I would work on my insecurities and never mention it again. So then he went from no messages to "oh she messaged me about xyz on the other day". Told him if he was willing to give me that snippet then he was hiding more from me (something someone said on this thread made me realise that so thank you!). He stalled all day but when he got home from work I told him I wasn't letting it drop, so he gave me access. Not only did he not stop messaging her, there are far, far more messages over many months then I imagined - some months all but a handful are texts to her. He sill insists there's nothing going on and they're just friends and she's the only one he can talk to, as he can't his other (male) friends. Told him if he put as much time and effort into maintaining other friendships (and our marriage) as he puts into his "friendship" with her then maybe he would have other people, including his wife, to speak to. So now that's it, he's gone and I'm utterly heartbroken, facing life as a single parent, wondering what happened to the decent man I married. The one who would do anything for me and would never in a million years treat me like this. A man who has turned into a lying, deceitful, selfish wankstain