I am a regular who has namechanged.
My husband of 23 years tried to choke me about ten days ago. We have been getting along very badly for some time now and the lockdown has made it worse. He has a very stressful job, and we have also had lots of other stress in recent years: an ill child, a long period apart, death in the family and so on. He has also been depressed for a while and is on medication. About two months ago, he threw a pot across the kitchen.
I called the police and he was cautioned as it was his first offence. I made him move out and he is now at his mother's. I have made an appointment with a solicitor. I have a fair bit of my own money.
We have DD, 20, who is at university and DS, 15 , who was at home.
I am completely shattered. I don't know how it has come to this. I won't go into details, as it may out me, but I will just say that I have given up a lot for this man. Put his career first, did the bulk of the childcare and housework, looked after the ill child. I can't believe that this is how I am being repaid. I can't believe I have wasted my life this way. He was never violent before but have noticed a complete change in him over the last few years, since he crossed 50. He is an angry old man now whom I cannot live with. I know that but I am so sad and lonely.