Hi everyone, apologies for the very long rant.
Basically, for the last few years my relationship has gone downhill. What was once a great relationship with someone so loving is now a terrible one that has made me (probably him too) feel alone.
He complains that we don't talk anymore but everytime I try to talk to him he either ignores me or turns it into an argument.
Instead of appreciating all the things I do he picks at all the things I haven't done or tells me I've done it wrong. For example, I'll clean downstairs thoroughly but he will complain about the basket of clean washing I put in the bedroom earlier that day. I'm currently on furlough and he's a key worker so I don't mind doing all the housework and homeschooling our daughter etc, I don't expect compliments for what I've done but to complain about what I haven't done constantly just makes me feel very down. He even calls me lazy as I'm cleaning and says one day he just won't come home.
He gets angry about stuff lying around all over the house but it's mostly his stuff, just this morning I pulled 4 of his jackets off the back of a kitchen chair when he's the one who insists they all be kept upstairs.
He is constantly nagging me to lie to the government so I can claim benefits and says I'm 'thick in the head' when I say no. He was talking about me to a friend on the phone right in front of me saying stuff like I'll have to leave her so she'll claims benefits and then come back.
I don't feel attracted to him anymore, which I think is down to how he treats me. This adds more problems to the relationship.
On top of all that he wants another baby!!! I tell him I don't want anymore and he tells me he'll go and have one with someone else.
The worst I've ever done is let the house get a bit messy (usually when I'm feeling down and it's usually his stuff) and refuse sex a lot of the time, when we do have sex he complains about it afterwards because I'm not into it like I used to be.
Do I deserve this? Everytime I'm about to snap his whole attitude changes making me second guess myself and then I don't have the heart to end it.