Yes........so 'lucky' to give birth and have to deal with the health consequences if it goes wrong. So 'lucky' to need time to recover from what could be a serious operation if it's a caeserian. 'Lucky' to stay at home all day long, doing nothing but playing, relaxing and having a nice, easy time.
That comment is a bit of a warning bell to me. I wouldn't be at all surprised if you will be on these forums in a few month's time, saying your husband is stressed at work and is resentful of the time you 'get' to be at home with a baby, chilli'n on your arse, clearly. That you feel unappreciated, undervalued for your contribution and he doesn't realise how much you do, how exhausting it is.
You need to have a chat with him pronto about any ideas like that he could be having because they will almost certainly be trouble.
His response was quite snappy “yes, I can see that” kind of thing. Then dressed the cut
You know, people need emotional AND practical support. They're both important. If he makes you feel like shit when you need help, even if he does then help you, that is going to get old really quickly. When some people behave in this way, what they're actually saying is 'God, you've been silly again, but I suppose that I am obliged to help you, given what a superhero I am & all'.
How do think that's going to work when you have this baby? Will he be behaving like this then and then developing a resentment he's having to do a favour for you? The way he's behaving now sounds like he has some tension that he's not handling well. Either it's his work or it's you (and he's just not communicating them as he should).
He doesn’t want to go for a walk, admittedly, there’s nothing else to do but he doesn’t want to watch a film together, tidy up or help me with the nursery
So errrr......why does he want to be in a relationship?? It sound to me like he has a bit of a problem. It doesn't have to be a full on addiction, just like not everyone is a full blown alcoholic, but I think he's gaming in order to try and unwind - and it's very much at your cost because he doesn't seem to consider that you have needs at all. What are you in this for him? A housemate? A buddy? If he's spending no quality time with you except for having dinner with you, why is he in this at all? Is that what he's going to be doing every weekend whilst you struggle? Is it going to be your job onoy to entertain them, to parent them, to take them to the park to play?
If he's gaming to unwind, it's not going to work. Trust me. He thinks it does, but it doesn't. Without proper relaxation, he most likely won't even enjoy those games as much as he should. As exciting and fun as they might be, first person shooter games will most likely negatively affect his mood overall. Also, is this the image the child is going to have of its father? A man who is constantly glued to a gaming omputer screen when he's home?
I'm so glad that your parents sound so supportive. Maybe all be well in the end and this is just a rough patch. I only highlighted a few things to consider in case this is still going on in a year's time. I hope they're addressed now.