Anyone asked a man out and had success?

[Heidi3333]

Hi ladies

I have had lots of different guys recently ask me out. Annoyingly I don't fancy any of them and so have turned them down (nicely). I can't remember the last time someone I liked asked me out.

I am fed up just sitting around waiting on somebody I fancy to ask me out. I am not a fan of making the first move but feel I need to start taking control of my love life...

There is a gorgeous guy in my local garage that has serviced my car a few times. He is always v polite and professional but we have only ever chatted about cars. I'm v attracted to him. I found him on Facebook and there's no sign of any girlfriend from his profile. Only problem is he is 11 years younger than me - I'm 45.

I'm tempted to drop him a message on his work email that we have used in the past to tell him I think he is gorgeous and to give him my number. If he doesn't respond in my favour then I'll just avoid the garage forever more!

Has anyone ever made the first move on the guy and had success? I'd much rather the guy made a move on me but I'm fed up hanging around and waiting!

Why wouldn't you ask him out? It's the 21st Century, women don't need to wait until February 29th any more.

Email is pretty unromantic. Your card idea seems better, you're thanking him for services rendered and setting up the opportunity to get to know each other socially without too much pressure.

Love all the posts implying that women should be coy flowers waiting to be asked for their hand

I always do the asking. I don't like people asking me out...if I'm interested, I'll let you know and we can go from there. Its always worked out pretty well. Surely its just a question with a yes or no answer. Not sure why you're overthinking it to be honest. If you're interested, just let him know. Take control of your destiny.

Go for it! The worst he can say is no, or that he already has a gf/bf/wife/husband I personally wouldn’t message his work email though. A note would be better I think, or a Facebook message

Most early to mid 30s blokes dont see mid 40s women as relationship material.

Some see them as fling/sex material.

If you're ok with a fling/sex, then why not.

I wouldn't do it through an email used for work though, that's inappropriate.

@Cpl1586407

Love all the posts implying that women should be coy flowers waiting to be asked for their hand

Those days are long gone, personally (as a man), I would be much happier if the ladies did more asking and less waiting, much better for all

My boyfriend now was my fwb for over 2 years, he's 12 years younger than me.
I didn't exactly ask him out but knew I had completely fallen for him so on a night out with friends with a bit of Dutch courage (actually I was pretty drunk) encouraged by my friends I messaged him saying you do know I'm head over heels in love with you don't you.
Longest 2 hours of my life waiting for a reply, he simply messaged back what took you so long
The rest is history, nearly 4 years later he's still the best thing that ever happened to me.

We are both 45 and single, wildly different in looks, personality and lifestyle but we both ....

That's because they don't care about your looks, personality or lifestyle to any real degree. The vast majority of them are not looking for anything but a casual sexual relationship.
That's true of many online daters but tends to be especially so of those who date within a wide age range.

@gaijinetal

Well aren't you just a little ray of sunshine ?!

My mechanic asked me out, I fancied his boss so ended up shagging him instead.

I'm with my boyfriend for the last 7 years and if you looked at my Facebook you'd think I was single as I post nothing about him on there. I'm hiding my relationship from my ex husband.

You posted this last week except this time you have neglected to tell everyone that he has a girlfriend.
Don't make a fool of yourself OP

Yeah - I Facebook messaged him asking if he wanted to grab a drink/coffee to rescue me from uni revision. I figured that if he didn’t reply or was not keen, it wasn’t a big deal. We’ve been married 10 years.

@Lollyneenah

You posted this last week except this time you have neglected to tell everyone that he has a girlfriend. Don't make a fool of yourself OP

I wish I was more careful about doing an advanced search before I go cheerily advising people to go and make a move on another woman's boyfriend 🤨

@Lollyneenah

You posted this last week except this time you have neglected to tell everyone that he has a girlfriend. Don't make a fool of yourself OP

OP's already been asked if she was that poster and said she wasn't.

I don't think you should say it as fact, unless you have the proof?

@Heidi3333

Thanks ladies. Lots of positive success stories ❤️ I'm 45 but I don't think I look my age. Plenty of guys like older women!

I can't reallly do much just now bc of COVID but maybe in a few weeks I'll pop a card through his work door thanking him for the work he's done on my car and ask him for a drink with my phone number. If you don't ask the answer is always no, is my motto.

Good luck I’ve dated older women, younger women and even the same age as me

Good call with the card - not much to lose, and you could gain

Yes I have!

Met a guy in a shop. Asked him on a date. He said yes! We dated a good few months before I found out. He had a long term girlfriend in another country!

So went to pot. However he did say yes!