Hi all,
Please go gentle on me I’ve been having a really tough time in this lockdown. Cut a long story short, been arguing a lot with (now ex) DP. About once a week - over really silly things. I told him I had been feeling really depressed with this lockdown, and during the convo he said “your completely different today compared to Wednesday”. I took offence to this, as I felt he was implying I can’t have different moods on different days. I am a editable atm feeling like a caged animal and said back “well if you don’t like it then F off”. He proceeded to pack his stuff and leave. He goes home and likes a girls provocative photo n Instagram. This is a boundary for me, my ex cheated via social media and he knows this. Don’t mind liking girls photos who are your friend, but provocative pics triggers bad memories for me and he knows this. My ex was very abusive and would deliberately try to make me feel insecure my getting his phone and pointing out girls and comparing me to them. It really took its toll on me and I considered suicide at the time cos I felt so worthless. So when I first got with dp I explained this is a boundary for me, I don’t mind liking friends pics etc but provocative pics is a trigger for me. Anyways I ended up letting it slide that DP liked this provocative pic, as he was drunk and thought we were over. Then on Valentine’s Day we had a little bicker over nothing and he ended things with me, but told me he said it in the heat of the moment and took it back soon after. Said he did want to be with me. Still done damage to me and made me feel insecure. At the start of our relationship, I found out DP had “”liked” this other girls provocative photo on Instagram when we first got together, I asked him who she was, he said a friend. So at that point I explained how my ex had been very emotionally manipulative and abusive making me jealous and insecure on purpose with other girls on Instagram in a way to control me, and it was a boundary of mine going forward. When we were talking the other day and I was opening up more about my past abusive relationship, the subject got brought up again. He admitted that the girl who’s pic he liked is not actually a friend, but a girl he slept with a couple years ago. I was quite miffed why he’d lie, and he said it was early doors and he didn’t want to put me off. He ended up deleting this girl off Instagram for which I was grateful. Fast forward a week, had a brilliant night Friday and drink was involved and he took something I said the wrong way. He then told me today it’s for the best that we split up. I’ve obviously told my best friend he’s split up with me, and she went on Instagram and said he had blocked her. I thought that was weird. Call it gut instinct but I have an account for DD and went on it to see and noticed he’d followed this girl again. This girl he slept with 2 years ago?? I just don’t understand why he’d do this and it’s made me feel really really insecure. This is a girl who’s he’s not spoken to in 2 years but as soon as he splits with me he adds her on Instagram. It just makes me feel like I’m never good enough and wonder what’s the point
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