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Tell me about your first true love...

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Changedusernamehahaha · 19/02/2021 20:00

Watching a movie tonight without DH and one of the young men in the movie remind me of my first love...the past hour has been spent reminiscing memories I didn’t even realise I had were unlocked. It lasted a long time from 17-23.

Tell me about your first true loves, how old you were, how long you lasted and why it ended?

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HeelsHandbagPerfumeCoffee · 19/02/2021 20:28

He was v charming,charismatic,clever and an incorrigible shagger
Who genuinely couldn’t see what the problem was with his poon hound activities
We drifted.No big drama. I just couldn’t be the wee wummin who tolerated his skirt chasing

HeelsHandbagPerfumeCoffee · 19/02/2021 20:29

16-18. Great fun but no he wasn’t for me. Too much dramallama

frumpyswayingqueen · 19/02/2021 20:33

My boyfriend at university.
Was also my best friend.
I stupidly broke up with him after having my head turned.
We probably weren't really suited romantically but I wish we could have stayed friends. He really got me and I've never met anyone since who has. Including Dh, sad to say.
I've found him online and he's done really well for himself professionally, and his wife looks lovely.
I'm glad he's happy

MiniTheMinx · 19/02/2021 20:35

I was 17, he was 28. He was gorgeous, clever, sensitive, loyal, I was a moo.

Chicchicchicchiclana · 19/02/2021 20:35

Why do you want to know? Short of inspiration?

Classicbrunette · 19/02/2021 20:42

1977 I was 16, it was a few dates until I saw him at a barn dance with his friends and a vivacious pretty girl, obviously his date, who had the audacity to come bouncing up to me and introduce herself. I was gutted. He’s since become a famous editor and yes I’ve stalked him on line haahaa

missbunnyrabbit · 19/02/2021 20:55

I still think about my first boyfriend a lot, even though I love my current boyfriend immensely. He told me he had never loved anyone more and we'd be together forever and he'd never dump me. Then his ex gf got in touch and he had some sort of mental breakdown. He dumped me and blocked me and I never heard from him again. And he got me banned from the local pubs he works at. I know he's still single cos I stalk him online occasionally.

He had a lot of problems but he geuinely seemed to adore me and I felt he would do anything for me. I don't know how he turned.

applepiecharm · 19/02/2021 21:02

I feel a bit silly saying he was my first love more infatuation, I was 21 and working as a receptionist he used to come into my place of work and the first moment I clapped eyes on him I wanted him so bad, luckily he was single, after a few weeks my dream came true and he asked me out, I could hardly speak more like a squeak I fancied him so much! Probably one of the most exciting days in my life. We only dated for a few weeks, he turned out to be a toad and didn't treat me nicely, he dumped me saying he didn't want any commitment, I said ok then fine, I'm not waiting around for you and got with the guy who I went on to marry (later divorced) he contacted me two weeks later to say he missed me and wanted to see me but it was too late by then I had already moved on. I spent years thinking about him and how it could of been in a fantasy way not how he really was. I wonder if regretted treating me badly who knows.

DuchessofHastings1 · 19/02/2021 21:08

When I was 18. He was a fucking gas lighting manipulative psycho path.

I didn't have anything to compare it to though. I thought it was normal.
He used to call me ugly, I'd cry and he would say he was joking and made me out like he couldn't have a laugh with me. We had to have sex every time we meet or we would sulk.
He would create an argument every time I went out with my friends but then twist it around.
'Accidentally' call me by his ex name.

The penny dropped when he said he couldn't see me for weeks when he got a new job as a bus driver. There was no reason not to see me, he just wanted me to get me upset so he knew how much I liked him. He would often say about breaking up to see me getting upset. He needs validation and reassurance.

I hid my phone so I wouldn't message him. Then he told everyone that he dumped me.

I still worry about the women who's hes with incase hes still the same.

Poppop4 · 19/02/2021 21:21

I have very fond memories of my first love. I remember at the time my mum told me it was a silly teenage girl and I didn’t love him.
I was 15, we stayed together 2 years and to this day 16 years later I know It was love.
We drifted apart as teenagers often

JorisBonson · 19/02/2021 21:25

Mark Owen

With wonderful 20:20 hindsight, I think DH is my first proper true love. I've had several relationships and been married before but I've never been as comfortable or happy. There's no drama and everything is just lovely.

SionnachGlic · 19/02/2021 21:51

Mine was bf when I was 16..we were friends for years before...it was all fairly innocent & we drifted when we went to diff ends of country for university. But remained friends...we run into each other every so often in random places when we eventually lived in same city or returned home for hols... he is a lovely guy & we have nostalgic chats about when it was all so much simpler even tho at the time we thought it was all so boring (except each other) & couldn't wait for real life to begin! And catch up on our kids in amazement that we are all grown up & 'mature' now! He became very famous .... the odd interview he mentions places he went & things that happened when he was younger ...& it makes me smile cos I rem those exact same places & events... cos we were together. It was innocent but it was real at the time...sweet!

Microwavingramen · 19/02/2021 21:53

He had the audacity to play the guitar. He made himself very difficult to get over. I'm still aggravated by it

fpurplea · 19/02/2021 22:00

I was 15, he was 16, we went out for 4 months until he dumped me for my best mate. Absolutely broke me. Ended up losing my virginity to him in a FWB situation a year later which went on for 18 months til I went to uni, but that was the point we started drifting apart as friends.

Not a single regret about it though. Although it reads terribly, he was a good guy, we were just two teenagers trying to navigate through adolescence. We still swap happy birthday messages which we have brief text catch ups in, but haven't seen him for 10 years.

PleaseReferToMeAsBritneySpears · 19/02/2021 22:16

I was 17 he was 19. We met through a mutual friend. He was really tall, really blonde, into music big time. Worked in a record store. He was an artist and went to art college. We went out for 4 months. We would shag everywhere, in the back of the car, in the bushes, I adored him. I don't know why we split up. We were just too young to settle down and commit long term I guess.

I married someone else. Had two children. Nearly 30 years later I'm divorced.

He found me online. He isn't married. No kids. We text, we sext, but he lives 500 miles away. We say we'll get together when we can travel etc. but I don't know...

Bettyboop82 · 19/02/2021 22:26

I was 18, he was 26 and quite a famous sportsman. Handsome, funny, charming and romantic! Body of a Greek god type. Told me I was his soulmate... turns out he was sleeping with everyone! I was devastated. Possibly more lust/infatuation than love though...

ValentinePomLePom · 19/02/2021 22:34

Wasn't the right time.
Fondly remembered .

Pastryapronsucks · 19/02/2021 22:40

We got together a week before my 16th birthday he was 18 we stayed together until I was almost 18, at that age an eternity. He was funny, handsome and kind, played in a band, but I just got restless snd ended up being awful to him before we split up.

A few years later we almost had a 'night together', his girl friend at the time was on holiday, but I couldn't do it to her. He had the grace to split up with her when she got back.

We never did get it together again. 30 years on we are still freinds and he is happily married to a lovely woman but I think we both have a sectet soft spot for each other😘

year5teacher · 19/02/2021 22:46

We were 18/19 when we were together. I fancied him for years. He was in the year above me at a different school and used to wait for his girlfriend at the school gates 😂 I once saw him in town and hid because I thought he was so gorgeous (and he really was!).

We started talking on Facebook and then on my 18th birthday we went to a house party at my friend’s house. We were together for nearly two years. I got on so well with his parents whilst my dad hated him from the start. It taught me a lot and now I won’t tolerate men sulking, trying to get you to coax what’s wrong out of them etc. He was controlling and had a lot of issues about his parents which spilled over into how he was in a relationship - extreme PFB vibes. I still feel sad about how it ended and it was 8 years ago. I felt sad that someone I loved so deeply and frankly obsessively could say such horrible things to me, and I still feel sad that something I wanted to last forever ended in a way that damaged me so much.

Frankly, I would ignore him if I ever saw him again.

dillydallydollydaydream7 · 19/02/2021 22:51

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noblegreenk · 19/02/2021 22:53

Met my first love when I was 17 and we were together until I was 22. I worked with his brother and we met at a xmas eve party. For me he was perfect and he treated me so well, but I was high maintenance and had a lot of growing up to do and I think he understandably got fed up with my drama in the end. It's a shame because I think he'd like me a lot more (as a person) nowadays. I loved him so much though and still do. I've bumped into him twice over the last 14 years and both times it's emotionally floored me. I've always played it cool and so has he, but the last time I saw him he gave me a long look and I could tell he still felt something too. But the past is the past and we're both married with kids now. He seems happy, which I'm glad about.

Nowifi · 19/02/2021 22:56

@pleaserefertomeasbritneyspears you have to start a thread if you do meet up with him, I'm totally invested now!

My first love we are still together 17 years later, we probably should have broken up but never got round to it in all seriousness I thought he was the most gorgeous man I'd ever met and it helped that he only lived up the road, win win!

MrJollyLivesNextDoor · 19/02/2021 22:58

I was 17 he was 18 - we were besotted with each other. This was 1987.

He dumped me after about 6 months for someone in their 30s.

I had been really good friends with his brother and girlfriend for years (gf and I friends since 5yo) and they uninvited me to their engagement party 2 months later. Good job really as it might have been awkward 😄

We have been loosely in touch (sort of) over the years on FB - he got married a couple of years ago and unfriended me shortly afterwards!

I don't mind the unfriending on FB but being dumped for an old lady I cannot forgive 😂

Fascinationends · 19/02/2021 23:03

He was the most wonderful man. We had 10 brilliant years together, marriage, home, so much fun. And then I got pregnant and for reasons I will never understand, he changed, turned into a total twat and we split up 5 years later. Still a raging fuckwit now.

BurningRed · 19/02/2021 23:05

@dillydallydollydaydream7 I’m so very sorry to hear this. How utterly dreadful and unfair.

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