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Tell me about your first true love...

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Changedusernamehahaha · 19/02/2021 20:00

Watching a movie tonight without DH and one of the young men in the movie remind me of my first love...the past hour has been spent reminiscing memories I didn’t even realise I had were unlocked. It lasted a long time from 17-23.

Tell me about your first true loves, how old you were, how long you lasted and why it ended?

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BurningRed · 19/02/2021 23:07

I’m still friends with mine. Still a soft spot there.

He’s now married, expecting his first child. I’m happy for him.

MrJollyLivesNextDoor · 19/02/2021 23:11

@dillydallydollydaydream7

Truelymadlydeeplysomeonesmum · 19/02/2021 23:14

He was 14 hands. A pretty bay gelding with the sweetest personality

dillydallydollydaydream7 · 19/02/2021 23:16

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Lady08 · 19/02/2021 23:18

I was 17 and we were together for 9 months, he then got offered a place at University, which was hours away from where I lived. I used to go to his house every Saturday night whilst his Mum was out and we’d listen to David Gray in his bedroom, have sex and then spend ages talking, he used to confide in me a lot as he lost his father a few years previously, he was definitely my first love. We agreed that with the distance and him at University, it wouldn’t work and we felt we would be holding each other back, so we mutually split.

willowmelangell · 19/02/2021 23:25

We were 18/19 and so in love. He was my first boyfriend. Even got engaged. It ended after 3 years. I got married, had dd, got divorced. Another dd. Single for 10 years now. 30 years have gone by. At Christmas time I looked him up on FB. There he was. Single. I finally sent a friend request start of Feb.
He answered with the loveliest message. He was really happy to hear from me. Called me my old nickname.

I cannot stop smiling and get all butterflies and warm and flustered when there is a new message.
He wants my phone number. I am trying to pluck up the courage.

Anonymouseky · 19/02/2021 23:25

I was 17, he was 16. We were together for about 5 years before I went through an identity crisis and finished it. He was the man I should have married. He would have made the perfect husband and father. He got married and divorced and is now married again. We haven’t spoken in years, but I think about him a lot. He deserves all the happiness in the world

tisonlymeagain · 19/02/2021 23:29

Back together with my first love after many years apart. We should never have split up.

noname55 · 19/02/2021 23:30

Oh @willowmelangell I love that. I hope it works out.

I still talk to mine. Met at 17. Just friends now and live in different countries.

Ibizafun · 19/02/2021 23:30

willowmelangell you’ve done the hard part by contacting him after all this time. You don’t need to pluck any courage as it’s very clear he wants to connect again!

wouldntmindbeingmrsw · 19/02/2021 23:32

Mine was from the age of 19-23. He was stunningly gorgeous, hilariously funny and very naughty and rebellious. We had so much fun together and got into plenty of trouble.My mother wasn't keen on him.
I loved and adored him for the whole 4 years we were together. He loved me for about 2 of them and then started sleeping with other women. Which I didn't find out about until we'd drifted apart. No cross words, just our time had come to an end.
He is now married with two kids. I'm happily married with a beautiful daughter.
I do think about the fun we had sometimes though, and have a chuckle to myself.

PermanentTemporary · 19/02/2021 23:38

My lovely holiday romance aged 17, he was 18. Oh God he was delicious, tall, brown hair and tanned. Lovely Brum accent, still my favourite. We were on a group outdoors working holiday in a most magical bit of Yorkshire, a mile to the nearest pub which we used to walk in the dusk and home in the starlight. On the last night we all played Sardines and he found me under the table and stroked my hand... we kissed about 3am when everyone had finally gone to bed. We parted at 11am on Thirsk Station and I never saw him again. Sigh

Tequilasun · 19/02/2021 23:40

Ahh Willow, keep us posted xx

RhubarbRocks · 19/02/2021 23:42

I was 7. I saw him and thought he would be the person I would marry. I was friends with his sister and we would sneak around to find time to be together and he would kiss me on the cheek! At 10 we were Mary and Joseph in the church play, just before I moved to another town. We stayed in touch thanks to his sister and he had a crush on me and then me on him. I spent every summer holiday with his family. At 18, the week before I left on my gap year, we got very drunk together and I woke up as I lost my virginity to him. So not the romantic moment I had spent years thinking about.

ThisTooShallBeFantastic · 19/02/2021 23:50

Dated at school, only about 6 months (seemed like a lifetime), when he’d done his A levels he went off to uni in Scotland, I was left in London (year below) so it ended. I’ve never loved so intensely again, he was a lovely and very intelligent chap. I visited him in Scotland with my fiancé and when I rang him later to tell him we were getting married, he was the only person to have the courage to tell me I was making a mistake - though I know now that everybody thought it. Wish I’d listened! Well, I don’t as I have my lovely DDs, but still... We lost touch, I really hope he’s doing well.

B1rdflyinghigh · 19/02/2021 23:56

My first boyfriend had a car. He was wonderful, we had a great time listening to Annie Lennox. I lost my virginity to him, totally romantic in a wood....heaven. I rang his number and his mum said that he'd gone to university. He never even said goodbye. My heart was shattered and that was the last time I believed a man.

Marineboy67 · 20/02/2021 00:13

44 she was 46....I'd been with someone for 24 years but was never really in love with her. After years of a loveless relationship I fell head over heels with the first woman who payed me attention.
It was over before it really started but my god it's taken me years to get over her.

Calmyertits · 20/02/2021 00:16

I was 15, he was 17...still together 14 years later. Next january i will have spent more of my life with him than without him

edwinbear · 20/02/2021 00:52

I was 16 and the posh private school girl. He was 18, living alone, working for an insurance company and hung out in heavy metal pubs at the weekends, wearing a ridiculously cool leather jacket and smoking. We were absolutely smitten. He treated me like a princess.

My parents tolerated him, he was polite and respectful to them, but not the sort of man they aspired to for me in the long run, they were insufferable snobs.

He dumped me, completely out of the blue, one Saturday morning when I went to his house for the weekend. There were many tears from both of us, but no explanation. It destroyed me. We hooked up many, many times before I left to go to Uni and several times when I came home for holidays, but he wouldn’t explain why he didn’t want to get back together.

When I finished Uni and stayed in London we drifted, as I wasn’t home often, but we got in touch through FB many years later. He told me then that my father called him one evening and told him that if he truly loved me, he’d let me go. I had a wonderful future ahead of me and should be free to go to Uni and live my life without worrying about a boyfriend. He said my father was very convincing and he agreed it would be in my best interests. He never married, he called off an engagement when he realised he didn’t love her like he had me. I’m still angry with my father 25 years later.

CovoidOfAllHumanity · 20/02/2021 00:56

Hmm

I am not sure whether I really loved him but I have fond memories of my first boyfriend who I met on holiday in Ibiza with my best mate (he was there with his best mate too so it was a double date scenario) in 6th form.

Lots of snogging on beach loungers
Boxes of love letters after we got home (no internet or texting in the early 90s)
The excitement of him meeting me at the train station in his mini metro
I can't hear The Chilli Peppers or certain Bob Marley tracks to this day without thinking of him.
He was a sweet easygoing guy and a good introduction to men on the whole. For a long time we did a lot of snogging but not much more than that.
I dumped him in the end but was upset that he wasn't more upset! Think it had run its course after a year and we were both about to go off to uni to pastures new.

I rather wish we'd kept in touch but have no idea where he is now.

Robin233 · 20/02/2021 01:13

I was 20 he was 21. Tall , sexy and so much fun - but totally irresponsible lol.
Were together about 18 months.
I dumped him - got back together.
He dumped me - but kept hooking up every few years.
I did love him so but he just wasn't good for me 😌
Several years later met dh who is like him in many ways, but totally responsible- been together almost 27 years and more I love each year
He maybe not be my first love but he's my last 💕

DustyMaiden · 20/02/2021 01:18

Met in 1978 aged 16 still together.

maras2 · 20/02/2021 07:23

Mine's lying next to me snoring like a wounded hippo.
He's been my first and only true love since 1968.
We're both still very much in love and have managed not to kill each other during lock down.
We're both shielding as over 70 but have both had our first jabs so hopefully we'll get to see DC's and DGC's in the flesh rather than through the window or on facetime.
Bloody love tec. Nothing like that 53 years ago, neither of our families even had a landline phone.
OMG. Spot the old gimmer wandering down memory lane.

Poppop4 · 20/02/2021 07:26

This thread has brought me so much joy to read 🥰 all these people who’s re reconnecting with their first loves or are still together. In a world that’s so messed up right now it’s really cheered me up x

Fireandflames666 · 20/02/2021 07:42

It's was someone I met at school when I was 15. We used to hang out sometimes and he even invited me back to his house, but then his friends told him I was ugly and he just didn't bother with me anymore after that. I remember buying tickets to see star wars for us, he came with me and basically ignored me on the bus journey back. What a nasty piece of work.

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