Ladies who are used to dating older men

[Awomanneedingadvice]

This is for you ladies that have always dated older men. Would you date someone your age or younger? I have never been with or dated a man my age or younger. I am mid to late 20’s and have only ever dated men at least 5 years older, previously 10 years older. I have started speaking to someone my age (a few months younger) and I don’t know how I feel about it. He is lovely but not sure whether to continue with it (within COVID guidelines) and the only reason for me second guessing it is the age. No red flags or anything as of yet. I am probably just being silly but I want to know people’s experiences with dating someone their age or younger

I don't think age has anything to do with maturity.

When I was 16 I met my first serious boyfriend who was 24, I was very much the mature one in the relationship.

My ex husband was 6 years older than me, didn't really notice the age difference when we first got together but when things went horrible and since the separation has shown himself to be an immature, spiteful arsehole.

I've dated a lot since then. Without fail, the dates with older guys have been awful each time. The best ones have been with younger ones! And the absolute best, was a 22 year old (I was 31 at the time). He was kind, knew how to treat women, was honest about what he wanted and we had a cracking time. I still miss him!

I prefer younger men

Thanks ladies

Manchild - the clue is in the name.

I have no stats to back me up, but many Manchildren will be like that for life. Some of them never mature, so it doesn't matter how old they are. I wouldn't recommend an age gap of larger than 5 years. Of course many couples do have more than that, but then you risk of you not being on quite the same page in terms of memories, popular culture, things like that. Also, men who look for someone much younger are usually trouble. You run the risk of being replaced when you grow too old. Some of them are convinced they can grow old gracefully, whilst having total double standards of what they expect form their young partners. Some of them enjoy the admiration, the ego trip and the power imbalance that reduces are the woman matures. I'm not saying that older men will embody these qualities to the extreme, but you may find hints of it over time as he starts to become restless.

If there are no red flags, there are no red flags. If you are used to older men, it will feel very strange at first, and I totally get that.

@StrawberryLipstickStateOfMind Jesus. There's alarm bells all over that. In my uni, we would have thought it weird and inappropriate even for a 20 year old guy to be dating a 17 year old.

There is a French drama teacher who could offer advice!

Almost all my boyfriends have been younger. DH is 5 years younger.

Not on purpose just the way it turned out.
Plenty of older men are immature dicks. Same as younger men.