I have been with my oh 25 years married 15 we have children .
Our relationship is extremely strained ,
I am Having help With social services on a child in need plan , mainly because he is mentally aggressive .
He has smacked my asd daughter a couple of times , and he's controls the way our lives are ( he would tell you he doesn't but for instance if I put the tv on at night , he wouldn't talk to me for at least the evening so I watch tv on my iPhone in bed. Or if I go out with friend it can be days after that he'll talk to me , he's sends me a very long winded texts about how I don't deserve a relationship etc just because I have gone out, I might add the last time I went out socially was dec2018 )
He doesn't pay his fair share often puts things in my bank like his mobile contract his credit card payments etc and never gives me money to pay it .
He threatened the kids with not paying for the pay as you go electric when I am at work ( I have gone pay monthly now to stop that)
There's so much more but I need to get to the point of the thread .
We don't share a bed and haven't had any intimacy since 2016 .
Anyway the social services have agreed with me and him that he must find somewhere to
Live wether he rent or move home with parents .
He knows the relationship Is over . I have tried to repair it for many years ( he's had counselling the counsellor apparently fell asleep, he had medication he took for a couple days then stopped ) .
So my son came to
My bedroom at teatime and said dads bought u flowers for valentines( even at the best times we never did valentines ) ,
So now I'm all confused is he trying to
Fix it (we have noticed he's been less shouty recently too ) my heart wants to think he is , but my heads saying it's too little too late , and it's just something to get me to
Change my mind and then when it's all calmed down he'll be back to normal .
I must add I don't love him anymore and only one of our children wants him to stay.